I have broken up with my ex for 6 weeks now, we tried the whole giving space, talking once a week, for a month beforehand, but I couldn't handle it cause she was the one that didn't have feelings for me, and i was still in love with her..... so i broke it off.... then i heard 2 days after i broke it off she had slept with someone.... i gave her a pretty nasty phone call after this, and i haven't spoken to her since.... I got a phone call from one of my best mates who had been talking to her, and he said she was doing it pretty tough and that she thought about me all the time, and wants to get back with me..... Do you think she was just after sympathy? or is it a case of absence makes the heart grow fonder? I still have feelinigs for her but she hurt me pretty bad with sleeping with someone, and i am enjoying my single life....
2007-06-05 14:05:47 · 15 answers · asked by Cleatus1512 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My guess is your ex didn't show affection for you although I may be wrong on that. Anyways, she desperately wants sympathy/pity and will most likely repeat the same mistakes she did to you. If you take her back, your ex will believe it is fine to repeat the same mistake(s) because you were willing to forgive her. In fact, your ex seems to be lost emotionally and probably doesn't know what she wants anymore.
I would suggest to help her out as in talk to her and see whats the problem if you feel comfortable. Help her out since she finally realizes and values the love you shown her as a friend and former boyfriend. More importantly, don't avoid like her the plague but be a good friend still. I'm sure she will return the favor back to you in the future when you run into troubles.
"Always be loving" as my wise friend would say.
I hope all goes well. Good Luck.
2007-06-05 14:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Steven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get back with her....Your sound like a sweet guy I think you deserve MUCH MUCH better then that.
For her to have sex with another guy 2 days later, doesn't that make you think that she was probably talking to that guy while you two were still dating??
Unless shes easy and just sleeps with any guy, And I don't think you want that either.
So I think you should enjoy your single life, or find someone else that would treat you better and not want to go on a break and loose feelings for you. Shes just calling you up now, because she probably realizes the good guy she lost.
2007-06-05 14:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Queeny25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would continue to enjoy your single life. It sounds like she's not willing to take a relationship with you seriously if she can have casual sex 2 days after you broke up. I think she's not very commited to the idea of a realtionship with you. She probably does really miss you, but this isn't going to make her love you more if you do get back together with her.
2007-06-05 14:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jean C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on my own experience, if your ex sleeps with someone right after you broke up, then they weren't that interested. Besides, you're enjoying life, so why even bother to get back with her? That would just drag you down.
2007-06-05 14:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Carlina C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously wants something from you, but i think you need to concentrate on yourself for now. breaking up is hard. you need to ask yourself what is MOST important to you.
technically, she did not cheat on you because you are not together. regardless if she's slept with someone the minute you broke up or years later, you have not commitment to each other.
if you are happy being single, then live it (at least for now). if you cannot live another day without her, then try to talk to her and take things slow. communication is key. figure out what you want to happen if you do talk to her. and ask her the same question. can she provide your happiness? can you provide her happiness? all will be revealed with communication.
2007-06-05 14:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was just after sympathy
2007-06-05 14:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make, now that she has slept with someone else if you got back together so you would...be sleeping with HIM.
No offense, but you are much better off moving on. After all if she really cared for you, she wouldn't have sucked on that other guys...
2007-06-05 14:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you broke things off with her then why did you get angry when she slept with someone else?
I mean if you broke things off you can sleep with anyone yourself. I say move on to someone else. If giving space did not work and she is already sleeping around then forget her. She probably was sleeping around while you were together.
2007-06-05 14:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably didn't realize what she had until it was gone. Ppl deal with hurt differently.
I say the best life is the single life!
2007-06-05 14:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by xxGlamROCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants sympathy
2007-06-05 14:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋