An ex girl friend has come back into my life. After two months of seeing each other we have rekindled our love

Question

Our first break up wasn't really a break up. We just drifted apart once we spent a small amount of time together we fell in love again. Last weekend we spent together in a hotel and really feel in love again. Next weekend we are going to S.F. All of this behind the back of her live in boyfriend. I was ok with the promissed break up and was just trying to keep things chill not going to deep, but that changed last weekend. We have both expressed love to each other. I know," if she did it to him she will do it to you " I can accept that as a posability and will know because she cannot lie to me. I can tell. So is it wrong of me to demand a time line and especially after last weekend that she at least no longer live under the same roof as him

Answer 1

You reap what you sow, buddy. I hope she sticks it to you big time.

Answer 2

I can understand why you feel like you neglected her, but if she really wanted to work on that issue, she should have talked to you about it. Cheating should not have been the answer for her. It sounds like you are trying to improve yourself (the working out/grad school--good for you!) and you should continue. This may be hard to hear, but if she's still having sex with the other guy, who's to say that won't continue even if you marry her? I know you're in a lease, but get out if you can. I think distance can help put everything in perspective, even if the end result is the two of you getting back together. Good luck!

Answer 3

you can ask for a time line but not demand. u don't own her now just because u love her and/or she loves u. u made the mistake of seeing her before she moved away from her current boyfriend so u will just have to wait till she cleans up this first mess before starting another one with you. but good luck.

Answer 4

If you love her and she loves you then it's only fare to the other guy that she tell him quick smart so he can move on as well, your time line is a good thing she needs to sort things out like now!!. I think you shouldn't sleep with her until that relationship is well and truly over, maybe she want to have her cake and eat it to, know what I mean?? , she want to have the both of you around, who knows, if that isn't the case then she shouldn't have a problem getting him out of her life.

Answer 5

first of all, if you can't see her out in the open then you should not be seeing her. second, it is very possible for a woman to love two people at the same time. give her an ultimatum and her initial reaction will give you the answer you are looking for. if she is upset at the ultimatum and dismisses you, she doesn't dig you as much as you think. if she dumps him then you got your girl back. if she is wishy washy, i hope you like sharing.

Answer 6

So you are knowingly helping her cheat and you want her to ditch him...good lucky buddy.

Frankly I think you are going to get hurt. She can and will lie to you because she has already lied to this other guy. Once someone does it one it becomes much easier to do again.

Answer 7

You need to back the hell off as long as she still has any involvement at all with another man. How would you feel about some other guy banging your girlfriend behind YOUR back?

Answer 8

Dude, you have no integrity.If wanted to be with her .. you have her break if with him first. Instead, you snuck around . What goes around comes around. Karma will get you in the end.

Answer 9

Tell her to tell him and not to play you both, give her a short time period and if no change move on and DON'T look back at her again

Answer 10

i think you should ask her out again then tell her u lv her ok im a expert (i dont have a job about that though ok) and does she have a yahoo acount if so Im her or e-mail her alot

Answer 11

MAN you are in trouble. you are right, too - a dishonest woman will always be dishonest. so - DO demand that she immediately discloses and moves out. otherwise be ready for a bad ride.