relationship being we moved in together around 3 months ago and i have a daughter whose almost 3 and we are in love and he loves my daughter and he s going to be starting a job in my town so he'll be here till dec, instead of us, seeing eachother 2 days every 3 weeks its awsome. but we just had his 3 friends stay with us for 3 weeks and now hes freakin out and im so scared we are in love but how can i resure him that its going to be ok
2007-06-05 12:32:41 · 7 answers · asked by fairy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't, he has realized that you are not the right one for him. Just because we love someone, doesn't mean that person is the right one. You moved way to fast, probably desperate for either a guy or a father for your baby. Doesn't matter why now, but hopefully you can figure it out for the next guy.
Things like this just end, that is why you don't move so fast to begin with. He doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with you for whatever reason. Isn't it better to find out now instead of later?
2007-06-05 12:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so hard. This is what I recommend, any many will say it. Give him space and time. Seriously DO IT. It is one of the hardest things I have had to do, but it worked. My bf and I went through this a couple of weeks ago. I sat down and made a list of things that I was scared of in life and with our relationship. Then I made a list of what he might be scared of. I then made positve remark for them (i.e we are both scared of where we will be in our careers). I also called my ex and asked him what he thought could be scaring my bf. I didn't get defensive. I basically let him tell me all my flaws. Then I approached my boy in calm matter and told him my fears and also the possibilites. I let him know that i was not perfect and didn't know everything that will happen. Then I let him do what he wanted without complaint for a few days (gave him time and space from me). He and I are still together and even better. He said he stayed with me because I gave him what he needed at that time. Try giving him what he wants. If it doesn't work then you know he is not the right one to marry
2007-06-05 19:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by danig33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k "fear of commitment" yes,
and good luck.
i'm sorry but it seems like to him your relationship may have been a part time relationship,you know, "easy".
now , your playing man and wife, and to him its eternal doom.
I say this with much ease,
because i don't know all of your story, but the way the question is formed seems as if he had his cake and now wants fast food.
your daughter should be your focus always... and i'm sure she is
but watching this guy act this way is not healthy for her .
and what do the friends have to do with this?
2007-06-05 19:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Morgan Lefaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"but we just had his 3 friends stay with us for 3 weeks and now hes freakin out"
huh?..i dont get it
2007-06-05 19:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by chumpchange 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he got a taste of the single life when his friends were around. Don't force him in to anything, it will make him hate and resent you.
2007-06-05 19:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends and relashionships do not mix out -----he may fell you are tieing him down to were he now may want to be with the friends .talk to him asure him he wants to go with them out with out you you'll be at home but do not expect it all the time and in return you'd like to be with your friends as well but quility time to were you and him have your moment 's to go out with out friends to keep a good and exciteing thing and trust each other
2007-06-05 19:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him take the time he needs and if its ment to be he wil find that out. dont push him it only makes it worse.
2007-06-05 19:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋