My wife has all of a sudden become a religious fanatic.Evidently Jesus is against sex. Ended when he showed up

Question

My wife is not the same person I married. We use to go out dancing, partys, lots of fun, very out going.She met some religious people at work and she has turned into a total fanatic. Eats, sleeps, drinks Jesus 24 -7. I'm sick of it. By the way, Jesus must be against sex because that ended we he showed up. What to do now. Don't say if you can't beat em, join em.

Answer 1

well if you can't live with her excess of religion, then you can't live with her. You won't be able to change her, she'll resent you for making her do so. So it might be best just to see which she wants more. You or Jesus. She can have both, but she must find a happy medium.

Answer 2

Dear access,

How much do you really love your wife? There should be a way to somehow embrace her with this new trait of hers. If she really is a believer in Christ, then she must acknowledge that she does have some duties to her husband that match up with some duties that you have to her.

And yes, us guys hate change! We each want that special someone that we married to be who she was when we saw her on the wedding day. But we are human beings. Sometimes we learn new things and make mistakes along the way of learning such new things. It is the same with her learning how to properly worship Christ.

It's a new thing and she's being enthusiastic about it, much how like each of us guys learn how to shoot a new rifle or use a new drill press. We guys want to see how far and how accurate we'll shoot or how deep we can drill a new hole, and otherwise see how well we get to play with these new toys. Now to work sex between you and her back into the marriage, you should ask her what does the Bible say about marriage. From there, she should realize that she should not be ignoring you, but should be loving you! And bingo! You now have allowed sex to come back into your marriage. She may be a little sheepish about the mistake she has made. Just put your arms around her and give her a nice hug. She will know that you love her through that and you should be able to get back to wooing each other.

Her christian co workers should also understand that sex within a marriage is a thing to celebrate, so they should be supportive. If not, then I'd have to say those guys have problems. If those co workers have that problem, go tell them to read that Dr. Laura book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". That should make them change their minds. It's hard for a lot of christians to go against Dr. Laura.

So, I hope some of this stuff makes sense and possibly give you other ideas that may work better for your situation. Just please say a prayer for me that I will find a decent job so I can have a wife myself...

Thanks,
Alvin R.

Answer 3

Poor guy. I really feel bad for you because I was just like your wife at one point. I moved on and got away from that but not everybody does. You need to tell her that if she can't be the woman you fell in love with and married, then maybe she needs to do something else. She has an obligation as a wife to fulfill your needs (even the Bible says this). Divorce is an ugly thing, believe me, I've been through two. But it's not any fun living the rest of your life miserable either. Sit her down and tell her straight up that this much of a change in her personality is really causing problems in your marriage. If she's not willing to compromise, then......do what you got to do. Good Luck!

Answer 4

As a Christian woman I can identify with your wife, but I understand how you're feeling. Its not an easy thing when someone changes their end of the bargain. On the contrary, Jesus is not against sex inside of marriage, he's probably one of its biggest advocates. Tell your wife, in a calm, non threatening way, that you are really having trouble understanding her sudden interest in Jesus. Just keep in mind, she doesn't know how you are feeling until you tell her, and she more likely to respond positively if you are gentle when you talk to her. Let her know that you've noticed that things have really changed sexually between the two of you and you want to know if there is anything you can do to get you both back to a relationship that works for everyone. Remember that patience and persistence need to go hand in hand.

Answer 5

It's no good answer for this one. Your wife seemed to have found god, not to say she didn't know him before. But I think what ever is going on in your lives has brought her to this path. I think you need to sit down with her, and let her know that you are glad that she has a closer relationship with God. And yes, if you love her and want your marriage to work you gotta find a common ground. And then watch how God works. I think this could help your relationship more then you think. They're Christian's that go out and dance and have fun. Being a christen is not like joining the army. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 6

Ask your wife to read 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 The husband shall fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

We are encouraged to physically come together in a sexual way with our spouse for the benefit of our relationship and ourselves. We are told not to withhold sex unless both partners agree and if we choose to do have a celibate period to end it before either partner is tempted to behave in a sinful manner outside of the marriage.
Ephesians 5:22-32 are also good passages that may help your marriage become stronger now that your wife has become a Christian.

Answer 7

Love for Jesus is not a bad thing, but meanwhile you marriage has vows and ramifications that are important.

Christianity condones and generally enjoys sex within matrimony, and in fact we are encouraged by St Paul not to withhold ourselves from our spouse.

I think in view of the complaint you have made, the bst course is to encourage your wife to go with you to a Christian counselor. Don't worry, they won't endeavor to force Christianity on you. But they will apply principles that will help you resolve the issue, whatever it is.

It would be incorrect to blame Jesus, however, especially if you are not knowledgeable about what He says.

Instead, why not ask Him, and search out His words to find out what He really says?

Answer 8

Jesus isn't against sex. Are you treating her with respect? If not no wonder why she doesn't want to have sex with you. Or if your sex involves sinful things such as watching porn, having it with groups of people or in public that would be another reason. If this isn't the case then she should not hold back from you because it is a sin to NOT have sex with your spouse in pretty much all other cases.

Answer 9

Religion is often used as an escape. Perhaps as one person said she felt the need to escape from you. OTH, maybe she's been sucked into one of those sad groups that this all expression of sexuality is sinful. According to the NT the whole point of marriage (besides kids) is to create a positive outlet for sexuality. Paul said that it is better to marry than to burn! The context of that statement is that it would be better to devote your life to JC but if you can't do that because you're "burning" with lust than marry. Then your lust has an appropriate outlet; at least an appropriate one in god's eyes as interpreted, in his writings, by Paul.

Answer 10

Do a Bible Study on the Song of Solomon. That should set her straight. God LOVES sex! He created it because He loves US. A true fanatic would get you and her into a threesome with Jesus. And tell her it's not blasphemy to call out to Him when the moment is right!

Answer 11

Jesus is not against sex. Talk to your wife. Stay sober that might help too. You made a committment to her when you got married. Divorce is not any easy solution to any problem. Talking can be hard, but it can be a wonderful way to get to know each other again. It could be she is feeling guilty over her life as she lived it before. Could also be the religion, but try understanding instead of fighting.