I really hate this woman?

Question

Hey guys how are you. there is a woman whos children go to my daughters niursery i cant stand her she dresses well elegant and attractive and evrybody sems to think so she has a car loads of money iam the complete opposite . I feel so jealous of her she has a expensive car nice clothes and hair my husband and daughter said so guys what should I do about this woman she is like the victoria beckham of wise owl there is nothing better than Id like to make her the worzel gummage of the montessori or even better turn her into dawn french, joe brand, or even better janet street porter and really make her life a misery that is what i would liek to do to her guys how should I handle this what should I do?

Answer 1

She hasn't done anything to hurt you. You are just jealous - as you admit yourself.
Anyway, if you are sending your child to a Montessori nursery, you can't be THAT poor, can you?

Answer 2

I don't think that women hate each other in general. I think that you may find insecurities amongs those that dislike their female counterpart. This could stem from having to compete early in life (which girl wears the prettiest clothes, which girl has the prettiest hair, etc.). It's just something that we never really grow out of until we make a conscious effort to appreciate the beauty of a "sister." Part of the insecurity is where jealousy plays a good part. Often women are subjected to the games of men playing one girl against another, which is not a healthy start. This is where brain power can certainly win over. You will find that many women are uniting and not allowing these petty differences affect how they treat one another. But what you see is common in the workplace and it has a lot to do with that person's background. Men are somewhat the same except they do not let their testerone levels speak for them when things get heightened. :)

Answer 3

Well unfortunately, there is always someone better looking, with a better body, who has more money etc. etc. Actually, if you are feeling a bit down about your appearance, perhaps you could jazz it up a bit. Perhaps you feel in yourself you would like to make more of an effort? You don't have to wear expensive suits and drive a smart car, just take your own look to its expensive best. You don't have to spend a fortune either as most shops sell fashion stuff at low prices. Its a question of taking the classic stuff and chucking in few more fashionable items. But don't copy her if thats not your thing, be yourself as you are probably sexier than her as she is a monied up slag. You sound more fun and I love the fact you would shoot her just for being a rich *****. You are a fiesty, funny sexy lady - enjoy that instead!

Answer 4

Instead of focusing of what you don't have, why not be thankful for what you do have? No, not everyone can have the best of the world's material goods. Look at what you do have. You have a husband and daughter that love you. You can afford to send your child to school. You can afford the luxury of a computer and internet access. Is your family happy and healthy? Do you have food on the table? Can you afford occasional luxuries such as going to the movies or out to dinner? Do you have friends? There are so many things to concentrate on. Count your blessings rather than shoot darts at this woman who probably has no idea you're so hateful toward her because she has things you don't. Let go of your jealousy. It will only bring you down.

Answer 5

She hasn't done anything to you--she's only appeared in your presence wearing nice clothing and such. Think about it. . . if you were to come up with the things she has, would people be justified in trying to bring you down just because of that?

It sounds like the real issue here is that your husband (and daughter, though it sounds like she is much too young to be held accountable) are not affirming YOU. Have a talk with your husband about affirming other women in your presence without making you feel affirmed as well--and discuss the behavior he is modeling for his daughter. (Certainly you don't want her to grow up thinking she deserves the same kind of treatment. . .)

Remember that this woman probably has problems of her own. I've yet to meet anyone whose life is actually perfect. . . she may have problems with marital fidelity, substance abuse, debt, mental illness, any number of other things. You really have no idea, so don't picture her life as perfect. In fact, if it helps. . . since she'll never find out you're doing this, you could always picture her private life as being as awful as one could possibly imagine. ^_^

Answer 6

You should get a life of your own and stop resenting other people. This woman has done nothing except make the most of herself. You have a serious problem. Jealousy is a horrible, ugly thing. You need to work on your self esteem and start liking yourself a bit more, then you might stop hating others so needlessly.

Answer 7

Well, looks and clothes aren't everything. How about her character? Is she nice, or does she try to come off as better than everyone else? Your character is the only thing you should worry about, because possessions, looks, and clothes don't really matter. People who RESPECT you is very important. If you have that, then that's all you need. If you don't, try to be nicer to people, and BE the change you want to see!

Answer 8

Grow up and be happy for what you have. Just because someone has done well for themselves in life does not make them a target for someone who is jealous like you. The attitude you have about this woman is extremely immature. Maybe you should talk to this woman and try to learn something from her. It seems like she has her act put together much more than you.

Answer 9

Let go of it, you shouldnt carry that jealous sh*t around with you, it'll mess your head up. And anyway, how the heck would you be able to turn her into Dawn French?? Tie her down and force-feed her pepperoni pizzas for a year?!

Answer 10

Ur paranoid, everyone has a different fate and if Ur not rich and not like her, doesn mean that u have to hate her!! there's no point on getting jealous here, instead do something to reach the same level as her, u can't become wealthy just like that u'll have to work hard for it ! plus money doesn mean happiness never forget that.