should i be jealous?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year,and we were best friends before that.We've had our share of ups and downs but we always get through it,and it makes us stronger.Because he hangs around with his best friend's girlfriend,he has become good friends with her,which is fair enough,i have close guy friends too.He is also in a band with her.And sometimes he just mentions her like,if he sees something he will say 'oh she wanted that!'or if a movie is on 'she wants to see that'.It doesnt happen often but the occasional comment.and today someone was on tv and she reminded him of her?i know my boyfriend loves me more than anything,etc,as he is always telling me,and im mad about him.am i just being stupid and jealous?

Answer 1

Unless he's given you a reason to be suspicious........ I would let it go.

Answer 2

You're being jealous. . .and careful. Things happen when people spend a lot of time together. I would make an attempt to be in their company a bit more. If you get the feeling that they are getting close or too close, you are probably correct. Always trust your feelings or as Oprah says trust that little voice in your head. It probably isn't serious but you may want to step in a bit-but keep your mouth shut.

Answer 3

To be honest if I were you I would feel jealous too. Jealousy is a very normal reaction, in situations like yours.

I think you should talk to him, and try to get him to be more open with you. because the way you describe it, personally i would feel that he has some feels for this girl. Plus, you said there in the same band, so they must be together quite often and who knows what there thinking in there heads when there around each other.

So i don't think there's a problem at all, with you be jealous, because I would be too.



P.S Try to spy on them to se if you can catch them in the act.....

I'm joking Hun, but good luck on this situation

Answer 4

No those are normal feelings. Why dont you do the same thing to him with one of your guy friends and see how he likes it or reacts to the idea of his own medicine. I wold talk it out and confront him about, after all it wouldnt hurt right? If you say he loves you then he should understand and stop mentioning her. How does his friend feel about his lady talking to your man? You arent suspicious about anything and you definitely trust your man,but why does he mention her all the time...Does the thought ever cross your mind that he may be feeling something for her? Its called the concept of cheating. I woud be upset with my man and I have a best guy friend and I never say oh greg this or greg that.... So you need to cofront him about it and ask why he mentions her so much....Peace!

Answer 5

well i depends. if this is constant, then you have the right to be a little bit jealous. but dont take it as he is cheating on you. if it gets out of hand and you cant take it anymore, just tell him. talk to him about it and reslove the problem. it will make you feel better and you guys will be even more stronger than you already are.

** if this isnt constant, but occasionally, then dont fret. guys do that alot from my experience. most guys say stuff like that to MAKE you jealous because they want to see how much you want them and how far they can push you, just goof around with it and after a while he will eventually stop. (after about 1 and a half weeks of this and he hasnt stopped, result to talking to him about it) **

Answer 6

You are being jealous, and you have your reasons, for what you are saying, if he was my boyfriend I'll be jealous too; but I don't think he is doing it (mentioning her) on purpose, maybe you could ask him about her? (with a really friendly question) Don't make it look like a big deal if not he could get mad.

Answer 7

no i would also be a bit mad bc it would hurt my feelings too if my boyfriend thought of a girl that much to mention her like that.if it bothers you then you should really talk to him about it and tell him its fine that they're friends but he doesnt have to mention her all the time.tell him how you feel.nothing works better than talking to him.you say you have guy friends too, do you mention them like he mentions her? if not bring that up.talking will make it better, your not stupid ok trust me.hope things work out for you two.

Answer 8

I think he may have a crush on her. When a person mentions every little thing about that person, it's because they have a crush on them. My husband used to talk about one of his co worker. And I pointed that out. I said, "do you have a crush on her? You talk about her all the time. If you have a little crush just tell me." After I pointed that out, it must have been true, because he stopped, and knew that he didn't want to jepordize our relationship. You're not being stupid, it get's annoying, so just ask him. Having Crushes don't really mean anything, all it really means is that we are hopeful people.

Answer 9

If it bothers you that much, say something. Though, you might run the risk of looking jealous and he will probably be more defensive than understanding. I would wait it out and see if anything else happens.

Answer 10

I think you're just a bit jealous. It's ok to tell you boyfriend you don't want to hear about her, especially if it bothers you that much.

Answer 11

You have the right to be jealous but you need to trust him a 110% like my bf trusts me! I f you dont have that in a relationship then its a bad relationship I mean just trust him if he likes you then he will stay with you but if he doesnt then he will break up with u 4 her. i think u need to talk to him to see wat he says!! Good Luck!!!!!