Should I have another child for my daughter's sake?

Question

I have a toddler and I would like her to have a sibling. However, my husband is extremely busy and I have to do all the parenting. It's extremely tough - I feel like a single parent. However, I really would like my daughter to have a sibling. Should I have another one for her sake? I don't want her to be alone, but I am very exhausted. My husband is happy with one so I know that if we have another, it will all be on me.

Answer 1

Absolutely not. Your child doesn't "deserve" another sibling. It sounds like you're already pretty overworked and overwhelmed, and right now, that would probably mean you can't be the best possible parent if you added another to the mix. There is nothing wrong with having an only child. I myself was an only until I was 13, and my husband is an only. Neither of us suffered for it. There's also nothing wrong with waiting until your current child is older and re-evaluating then.

Not wanting your child to be alone is not a sufficient reason to have a baby, and I think that you might end up resenting the second baby when you were up in the middle of the night for the umpteenth time for a feed and change, knowing that your toddler was going to get up early the next day. I have a two year old, and I have a chronic pain issue. I know that the days that I'm having a bad pain day, it makes it that much harder to deal with him, and he seems to know when I'm having trouble keeping up with him and takes advantage of it (he's too smart for his own good).

I would, if I were in your position, wait until my older child was a.) potty-trained, b.) speaking well, and c.) not as likely to tantrum before thinking about adding another baby to the family and trying to deal with the stresses of a newborn and toddler.

Answer 2

No, I don't think you should have another. You already said that you feel like a single parent - this will only magnify your resentment tenfold if you have to do all the caring for two. In fact, you could end up divorced. I say work with what you have, strive to get your husband more involved with both you and your toddler. Parents who become polarized by the children, often become very unhappy people and lovers.

Answer 3

NO. Do not have another child just for your daughter... You must want the child and be prepared.

Also, most siblings do not play well together in their first few years and the older is upset about the loss of attention while mommy is tending to the baby.

Instead, so she can have the bonding, try having her spend time with child of other family or close friends.

Answer 4

I have a cousin that is an only child, and she married an only child, now their children don't have any aunts, uncles, or cousins! I know that is kinda extreme, but she always says she wished she had siblings. I say go for it! She will thank you, don't not have another one just because you are tired, that will fade away, and later on, it will be easier for you, because you wont have to entertain her all the time.

Answer 5

personally i say have at least one more...i have a cousin that is an only child an he has always wanted a sibling...what if something happened to you and your husband, your daughter would be alone. Unless your husband says no to having another go for it...you never know what the future may hold.

Answer 6

no longer probable an mind-blowing reason to have yet another infant. Get a pup or another form of puppy, to be a extra physically powerful half to your daughter. Having yet another planned delivery is great if that's what you and your husband prefer, yet do it considering you prefer yet another infant, to no longer have a playmate to your daughter. I certainly have 3 daughters and the fee creates no longer basic situations, i could have been able to grant extra issues for one infant, yet once you ought to unfold the money out between 2 or 3 babies it receives tough. in simple terms be arranged, financially and emotionally. good luck in you determination.

Answer 7

NO you shouldnt have a child just for your daughter. However, I think maybe you should have another child for you. You are obviously thinking about it, or you wouldnt have put it on here!!! It is hard = i wont ever tell anyone different. I had three kids under the age of three years old, and every single one was planned. It was tough, but i coped, and you will too!!! I have three beautiful daughters now, and they are my whole life. Go for it = have your baby = you will cope, and daddy will be soooo proud.

Answer 8

Heck No! Coming from an only child, I would say no. If she has made it this far without one, she should be fine. I loved being an only child. I felt very secure with my parents, talked to them about anything, and of course, being spoiled cause i was the only one had its perks too. Everyone thinks people should have more than one child so that they dont get lonley, believe me its not that bad. Especially being a girl! Anyways, really its of course up to you, but like i said, coming from an only child, its not as bad as people think (im 19 years old now, and i wouldnt have changed my childhood for anything)

Answer 9

as a matter of fact im also thinking about that because i dont want my daughter being lonley playing by herself i get sad when i see her in her room all alone! she would never know what it is to be a aunt either! if your husband is working too much than you might as well consider yourself as being the only parent so you have to know that you'll be having two to take care of but you can do it my mother did with 10 kids,no car,no job so yeah anthing is possible!

Answer 10

well do whats best for your little girl, if you dont have the money or the time dont, she will feel attention deprived if you are with that baby the whole time an may become verry jealous and bratty, just do what you feel comfortable doing, it sounds like you may not be ready, consider things that having a baby will interrupt like your much needed sleep, and you may also become depressed if all the stress of a newborn is put on you so be careful, but i think its great that you love your child so much!! you sound like a great mother!!