I still need and want him, I LOVE HIM?

Question

I had a very bad break up with my boyfriend. We broke up in January. I tried to apolyigize, but i think i hurt him to a point where it still hurts him. I shouldn't have said the things i said, or even gone there...I love him!!!! I love him more than anything! If we honestly can never be again, i just want to look in his face, hold him and tell him i am sorry, kiss him then walk away. We were inseprable! And this is all my fault. If i weren't so STUPID i would have taken a different approach and not lost him. I at least need to make a big one last time effort! We were suppose to get married! I know i broke his heart, but there has to be something i can say to make things right again. If i can't i just need to tell him how sorry i am i hurt him , and that i had no intention of hurting him so bad! I am miserable without him. Until i nip this in the bud, i can't move on. I need some advice. So, if anyone out there has been in love, & lost some1, u kno what i am going thru, IT REALLY HURTS

Answer 1

well you can make one last effort to get him back. but if he really loved you he would of for gave you because no man wants to let go of any women that they truly love.

Answer 2

This relationship has ended and he's moved on with his life. You need to move on too.

Write down a letter telling him how you feel and how you are sorry for what you did. Don't send it though. Have a little ritual and burn or bury it and use it as a time to say goodbye to the past. Cry, get sad, then the next day, get up, wash your face and start living a new life as a strong independent woman.

It feels like your heart will break right now but it will pass and you will find someone else who will be even more amazing.

Answer 3

yep....been there on both sides. So you said you tried to apologize. If so and he doesn't want to give you a second chance, then move on. I know the pain is hard but what you want to do is for your own closure and to ease your guilt over whatever. I lost someone because of my own stupidity. I wanted to apologize to him and make him see how sorry I was, but I finally realized that he had moved on and my bringing it back would only hurt him. So I lived learned from my mistakes and dealt with the guilt. When I had a bf who I REALLY loved, I had to break up with him because of his continued behaviour. He apologized and kept trying to get me back. But he was only hurting me by not letting me heal and move on.

So apologize and then leave him alone. If he forgives you, he will let you know and maybe once he is able to forgive or in the future you two might have another chance. If you continue to bother him, it will kill any chance of him being happy with or without you. If you really love him then you want him to be happy no matter what.

Answer 4

If you truly want him back, let him know that what you've said and done was a mistake, and that you never meant to hurt him. Basically, you're going to have to ask his forgiveness. And this may be a little bit hard if you hurt him really bad. If you can win over his forgiveness, you may garner a new chance with him. But getting his forgiveness is your goal. The rest, do not worry about until then, for it won't matter if you cannot achieve this.

Answer 5

What did u do to make him so angry? Anyway, try calling him up and ask him if you could meet up and tell him this is the last time you will bother him.When u do meet, first tell him how sorry you are about everything and how you mistreated him and that you can see it now and that it is all your fault and that he deserves better and that many girls would be lucky to have him. and also say that you wish you could turn back time. Then after that just leave him alone. If he really loved you it will play on his mind then he will call u back after some time.if not just try to move on.

Answer 6

no one wants 2 our loved one cry. the thing is we make them hurt but don't mean. i think he still has feelings 4 u. but is afraid ur just messin. if i were u i would go out of my way 2 c him and does he do any sports or nething u could show up 2 a couple of events he participates in. also call him every nite and invite him 2 events w/ u and ur friends. but don't stalk him or nething. just let him no that u r there 4 him and still love him. in time he will see that u made a mistake and learn 2 forgive u. or @ least let u tell him how u feel. well good luck!

Answer 7

It depends on what you have done, if you cheated on him then besides the pain he feels like a fool and everything you had together now feels like a lie. if you want him back your going to have to show him big time, try writing to him and give it your all. remind him of different happier times and tell him how much you love him. if that doesn't work out, you let a good thing go. I wish you the best of luck, i know by the sounds of you that you do love him.

Answer 8

I don't know what you did but it sounds serious. I'm sure he hurt as bad as you. I would meet with him and tell him how sorry you are and how you regret your actions. Sounds like he has an apology coming from you. But you need to move on. Get really busy and don't dwell on him. Start going lots of places with friends and get your life going again. You've learned something important.

Answer 9

In the end, he'll get over it. He may be in pain right now but he won't always be. He just needs to work through it. The best thing is to let him be. Move on with your life. When he's a better place you can both talk like two human beings.

Answer 10

Wow, man I know what you mean it does hurt. Like hell. I guess what you could do is just tell him what you want to tell him. Meet him in person, not over the phone. Thats as simple as it gets. Or wait until he comes to you to talk about it(if you think he'd do that.) I'm not sure what other advice to give you. I hope everything works out! I really do.

Answer 11

yeah i know how u feel. Its hard. by ex and i were goin out for 6 months and we broke up because we were goin to different schools. I was suprised , mad, sad ect but wat could i have said its obviously he wanted to nreak up. so i tried to get over it but deep down i know i really cant. i loved him to much ..and he was the first guy i said"i love u". ill always have memories of him..and it makes me happy and sad at the same time. Slowly it may heal but tell him ur r truly sorry..start off slow again ..gain friendship back and then slowly mabey things will work out. Good luck :-) i truly hope u dont end up like i did!!