My partner and I from the very beginning discussed being open and honest with each other. The other day he told me that some guy at the gym kept looking at him and even approached him and asked him to go to his place for a drink and more. He didn't do anything, but should I be worried about this. I got very jealous when he told me about it. At first I wondered if he just told me to make me feel jealous, but maybe he just wanted to share it with me. I feel as if the same thing happened to me that I would totally tell him about it as well. Am I worrying for nothing or is it strange that he told me about this? He apparently told his best friend about it as well and the last time I hung out with her she mentioned jokingly if he had told me about the dude that tried to pick him up at the gym. I tend to be very jealous and insecure and don't know if I might be reading into this too much?
2007-06-05 11:32:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should feel very comfortable and secure in your relationship. The fact your partner told you about something that happened to him is a GOOD thing. It is him being open & honest with you...he didn't want anything to do with him, and found the whole thing funny...part of why he told his friend.
Get some counseling for your insecurities before you jelousy ruins a good thing.
2007-06-05 11:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being open and honest has nothing to do with making an insecure partner more insecure. I think it was pretty thoughtless. I would have kept my mouth shut and that would include my friend too. Only you really know the truth behind his motives. Relationships are always lots of work and understanding.
2007-06-05 18:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a number of reasons:
1. He felt uncomfortable about it and was trying to talk it through.
2. He was slightly tempted and curious about it but is trying to tell himself he doesn't have any tendencies by talking to you.
3. He was flattered that someone found him attractive.
4. He was just being open and honest as you had agreed to be.
Why not just talk to him about it and how you feel rather than imagine things that may not be true?
2007-06-05 18:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by aboverubyz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just told you to tell you. Same thing happened to me, and i told my husband, not to make him jealous, but because he is my best friend and I tell him everything. You have nothing to worry about. I
2007-06-05 18:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by sdgirljen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he told you because he trusts you and your relationship. If he didn't want you to know, he wouldn't have told you or he would have hid it from you. Seems as though he has alot of faith in the relationship and feels he can be completely open without you leaving. I think it's a good thing he told you, that's one quality of a great relationship.
2007-06-05 18:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Hazy Daisy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably told you so that you know other people find him attractive. In some twisted way he probably enjoys your insecurities because they keep you bound to him and make him feel important.
2007-06-05 18:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by DEW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hid it, then you'd have a reason to worry. He might enjoy your jealousy to a point. However, I doubt it. You shouldn't be insecure unless given a reason.
2007-06-05 18:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ann S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys shouldn't be looking at other guys anyways. GOD I HATE QUEERS. THEY SHOULD ALL BE BANNED. HE PROBABLY GOT IT IN THE BUTT BY THE GUY CAUSE THAT IS WHAT QUEERS DO> NASTY
2007-06-05 18:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by familyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋