Flower girls and ring bearers?

Question

I will have 2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers in my wedding. My question is my fiance will have a black suit black shirt w/ white vest/tie and so will one ring bearer. the groomsmens will have black on black w/ red tie/vest and so wil lthe other ringbearer. the flower girls will have a dress closely matching mine theirs is also white but theyll wear a red sash so it doesnt seem like too much. Is that lame? He said about theyll look like a miniture bride and groom. I thought it was cute. At least its cute in those pics of kids dressed up as brides and grooms..would it not b so cute in real life?
also we will have a smaller wedding of around 150-200 guests.
what r ur thoughts of having an usher to help seat the guests (there will only b a moh and bridesmaid...best man and groomsmen) the reson for 2 flower girls and ringbears is i have 2 neices and a nephew he has a nephew and we tried but we just cant choose between them theyll all b so precious dressed up!!

I want to clarify. We are not overdoing it with the ringerbears/flowergirls to have them like us. Its just simply the outfits.and it wasnt done intentionally

LOL. Actually he did pick out the outfits. He chose the tuxes and the colors. And it was his idea for the red sashes! He wasnt complaining he was just saying how they were a mini us.

Answer 1

It's fine! I think it would look very cute.
Besides, he can't complain now when he probably wasn't jumping at the chance to help when you picked the outfits out to begin with!

Answer 2

I wouldnt dress the boys in different vests, keep them both in red, you and the groom should be the only ones uniquely dressed. Everyone else should be uniformed, especially if you have the flower girls uniformed, it would look odd if you had the boys dressed different than each other. One to look like the groom and one to look like the Best man, it would only look right if you had the mini bride and then the other girl in a dress like your MOH's, which would really be weird! I vote they both go in the red vests.

You are supposed to have 1 usher per 50 guests, so you may want to enlist some extra help since you will only have 1, or just have the usher hand out the programs and let people seat themselves. Otherwise, if you leave it to 1 person, you may have a delay because the poor guy will be running ragged trying to get everyone seated, and people will have to wait for him because he is only 1 guy.

PS I have to laugh, I think its so sweet and such a testament to how different things are around the country. 150-200 is a very large wedding in my social circle, and I think its so funny that you think its a small wedding!

Have a great day!

Answer 3

I think it is fine...I am only having one ring bearer and flower girl but they are matching us almost to a T and no one has even batted an eye about it. I would have had more than one if I could but I only have 1 neice and 1 nephew that are in the proper age group.

I don't think that it is unreasonable to have the groomsmen or the usher do the seating. I am getting married in a couple of weeks and I only have on person seating the guest and I am having about 140 guest.

Answer 4

I think it will be adorable. Many brides do that for their wedding that is why they make flower girl dresses and tuxes to match the bride and groom. I think having ushers would be a good idea if you have some family members or friends you would like to include. It is nice for the mothers of the groom and bride to be ushered to their seats. However, if there really isnt anyone you are wanting to include then dont worry about it. Congrats on your wedding.

Answer 5

I think the kids will look adorable but I do agree with those people who are suggesting that the two ring bearers should match.

And the ushers sound fine. I had just over 100 people at my wedding and we had 2 ushers (a good use of our brothers who weren't in the wedding party). The use of ushers is based more on the size of the guest list and not the size of the wedding party.

Answer 6

I think that's the idea, they are suppose to be mini bride and grooms. At least I know the flower girl is suppose to resemble the bride.
The only suggestion I have is, I would put both the ring bearers in the black w/red tie and vest, rather than with the white tie and vest.

Answer 7

With both sets of kids being mini brides and grooms, both ring bearers should be dressed the same. Yeah, cute.
Of course you need ushers to help seat the guests at church, at least two.

Answer 8

well at my friends wedding she had 4 flower girls and 4 boys BUT what she did was she had 1 boy holding her ring and one boy holding her husbands ring, and then she had 2 girls throwing the petals and the other 2 girls and 2 boys walked down the isle together like the brides maids and the grooms men would side by side but holding hands. so it was way cute. but what u could possible do is kind of the same but u only have 1 girl throwing the petals. its just an option! GOOD LUCK ON THE BIG DAY!!!

Answer 9

I think that sounds fine. What I finally decided (after weeks of agonizing) is that you should have who you want to have in your wedding, regardless if it seems a bit "over the top." You can have ushers in addition to your groomsmen, or you can use the groomsmen (with the exception of the best man) as the ushers. However you want to do it will be fine.

Answer 10

Have all of them. It will look cute for them to look like miniature brides & grooms, just dress the boys the same.
Also your groomsmen are your ushers.