am i too picky?

Question

alrite im looking for a girl that is a brunette about 5'2''-5'6'' a little meat on her bones, must have an amazing smile and dark eyes.....along with the other obvious features......also i wont date a girl unless shes a virgin and oral virgin........all my friends say im too picky and should just go out with anyone but i dont want to settle on somthing i dont like or dosent have the same morals as me but im getting lonely should i give in

sorry i did mean to put my morals but i completly forgot....please dont think i only care about looks i want a girl who dosent drink or party and can have a fun time just watching a movie at home, and a girl who will actually be there for you and not judge ......i also would LIKE a girl who loves everything about me including my many imperfections

Answer 1

hey i'm totally single..and meet your list of criteria...lol
so you'll meet someone just like me or better...don't settle

Answer 2

You should not settle for anything but in this date and time it will be hard to find a girl 18 and older who is a virgin. What if you get in a situation where this person has everything that you are looking for and you just don't click or something happens in the long run. Then again I was a virgin when I met my boyfriend-now husband and I did not lose mine until I was 21. So there is hope but you should be a little more open.

Answer 3

sometimes you have to re evaluate what your looking for... dont say picky, maybe selective... picky sounds negative. I dont think there is anything wrong with looking for what you want but come on just because somebody maybe slept with someone doesnt mean that they are not worthy of dating you. I mean what if a girl set those standards to you? what if your 5'9 and she only dated 6'2+? Don't be shallow lifes too short... your going to live a lonely life if your searching for prefection. You will be lucky to find someone that you can trust and love and that will love you for who you are, everything else about that person should be a bonus. Good Luck, lighten up, peace.

Answer 4

You are a little picky about the way she has to look and height she has to be and everything, but as far as the virgin part goes I guess thats not too picky, I guess it depends on how old you want her to be because a girl cant change what she has already done all she can do is worry about the future.

Answer 5

Picky...perhaps. Shallow? You bet! Everything you described about your dream girl was physical. You mentioned morals...but I didn't see one reference to morals in this question other than the necessity for THEM to be virginal in order to be pleasing to you. What about her personality, values, etc. One should never lower their standards...but you seem to have very little truly important standards. Physical attraction can only get you so far in life, unless you are content to have a shallow and superficial relationship. Sex is great, but it does and will get old...and you certainly will get old and so will your partner. Don't you want something more substantial? My advice is: change your standards and work on getting past just the physical. Don't limit yourself, you may be surprised by what you find.

Answer 6

it's not a matter of giving in. you can't know anything about a person until you meet and talk to them. how are you going to do that if you're only looking at brunettes that are 5'2"-5'6"? you could be missing the woman of your dreams b/c she has red hair or is 5'8". you have no idea of a womans viewpoint or morals unless you know them. good women come in all shapes,sizes and colors. open your eyes and you mind.

Answer 7

Many of the things you are describing are physical. Those are what attract us to a person initially, but we need so much more. Don't be so quick to write somebody off because they don't meet your physical description. Take the time to get to know women. I think that you will find that when you find a person who's personality/morality is a fit for you, they become more physically attractive.

Answer 8

Not only are you too picky but you're setting yourself up for a big disaster down the road. What if you wait for this girl for years and finally find one that meets your characteristics and she breaks your heart or worse, turns out to be just a jerk/no fun/just a bad catch???

I bet you drop all your picky attitudes as soon as you date someone you like and not just someone who fits your ideal description.

Answer 9

No, your not too picky. Your making sure that you wont end up with someone who won't be a vital part of your future.

Of course there are plenty of girls out there who aren't brunette and are just as good.
Be more open to personality.

Answer 10

I agree with you. You should not have to settle for something you don't want! If you have something you want & you are holding out for, then do it. Don't let your friends change your mind. I think you have standards--picky is not necessarily a bad thing. I think it's way better than guys that will go out with any skeevy girl with a pulse :) Don't worry, you'll find her. Good luck.

Answer 11

no you arent too picky ( except perhaps for hair and height) . You wouldnt be true to yourself if you accepted any less. You dont say if you are in school still but the working world will yeild many new faces to you. So now be the best you can be academically or in your job and she will appear.