Grooms mother walked down isle?

Question

Chris(Soon to be husband)'s moma said that the mother of the bride and the grooms mother are both to be walked down the isle is that true or not, and how is that suppose to work, and as well as i have his sister as a brides maid, & he has his dad as a grooms man, and his moma wants them to walk together, but i dont know, i mean it is my weding not his siters or his momas. what do i do about this stuff.... HELP

Answer 1

There is NO etiquette saying that the mothers are walked down the isle. Sounds like she's just trying to get her spot in the sun. The isle is reserved for the wedding party only. Not the guests. And she IS a guest. She is NOT part of the wedding party. And NO OFFENSE, technically: neither is the person who walks YOU down the isle even though he's walking you down the isle. The wedding party is you, groom, brides maids, maid-or-honor, groomsmen, and the best man. THAT'S IT!. Above all, this is YOUR wedding. It's not even your grooms wedding! It's YOURS!. You have ALL the say and no one else! Mommy just wants to "be in the wedding too".
Well, boo-hoo Mommy. It's not your day.
Sorry if I'm sounding insensitive. I have THE WORST mother-in-law. And she's CONSTANTLY trying to step on my toes.

Answer 2

Typically, the wedding procession starts with the mothers being walked down the aisle by the ushers. The groom's mother first, then the bride's mother. If you want to have the grandparents formally seated, then they go before the mothers. After the mothers are seated (or light the side candles of the unity candle, if you're doing that), then the aisle runner (if you're having one) is pulled out, and the bridesmaids walk down the aisle, followed by the bride. As to whether his sister and his dad should walk together, that's up to you. Use whatever order you want people to stand it (height, age, importance) on either side, then they just walk out in pairs. If it wouldn't be too much of an inconvenience to have his sister and dad walk out together, it would be a nice gesture to his mom, but if his dad is the best man and his sister is in the middle of your line, just explain to his mom that it's not going to work, but you can get family pictures at some other time. Remember, this is your day, but at the same time, remember that she will be your mother in law, and you don't want to piss her off too much.

Answer 3

Usually after all the guests have arrived and right before the wedding starts the groom's mother is walked down the aisle by an usher with her husband following or by her husband. Then the mother of the bride is walked down the aisle and seated. No special music is played or anything like that it is just showing that they are the mothers and most of the guests understand this. Then the wedding begins and the music starts and the bridesmaids begin. You are right about it being your wedding. It should be what you and your fiance want and only what you want. You can listen to suggestions, but are under to obligation to follow those suggestions. This is you and your fiance's day so do things like you want them done. Congrats.

Answer 4

I have seen all three ways at weddings. The father walks the daughter down the isle, both mother and father (usually if they are still married and the decision is mutual between all three) and then I have seen the mother walk the daughter down when the father has not been involved in the up-bringing or unfortunately has passed. So I think all three can be fine just depending on the situation. The way it sounds in your post your mother is doing it for selfish reasons or to get back at your dad. I do beleive that it is something that you cannot take away from a father that has been very involved despite a divorce as it is very important to him and usually the daughter also. I think the daughter/mother dance is kinda to the extreme. you need to have a heart-to-heart with your mom. Maybe you can have her do a reading...I think that would be a nice way to include her.

Answer 5

Yes, it's very special if they are. Once all the other guests have been seated, the mother and father of the groom get seated - since the FOG is a groomsman, she would have an usher see her to her seat. The mother of the bride is seated last, led to her seat by an usher, or for example, an older brother. Then, the music would start, and the bridal party start coming down the aisle.

Answer 6

Yeah it is true that the mother of the bride and groom are supposed to be walked down the aisle by an usher. (as well as the grandmothers) And if it won't be an inconvenience then let the father and daughter walk together but if it is then it's your wedding and you can pair up whomever you want to.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

I have been to weddings where when the groom goes to the alter before the mothers and (grooms) father walk from the back of the church (or whereever) up to their seats. Its not a big thing I mean when i saw it done people didn't really pay much attention to it. I think this is done because of the brides father walking her down the aisle. One solution would b to let ur fiance walk his mother to her seat when he goes to the alter his father and sister should not walk w/ them since they r in the wedding party. This would b a compromise.
she might just feel like she is being pushed aside. I hope it turns out well for you good luck.

Answer 8

The MOG is walked down the aisle escorted by a groomsman.

Then the MOB is walked down the aisle by the Best Man.

The Groomsmen and Best Man stay at the alter with the groom.

Then the Bridesmaids walk followed by the Maid of Honor, flower girl if you have one, then the Bride & her dad.

Answer 9

Tradtionally, first the groom's mom then the bride's mom are walked down the aisle last right before before the bride by ushers, but I've been to weddings where the two moms escorted each other down the aisle, so go with what feels right to you.

Answer 10

No worries. I know it can get stressful. Usually there is a whole procession including the parents but you are not obligated to do it. If you choose to do it to make the fam happy know that your moment with truly be the one people are going to remember. The regular procession does not have the wedding march music . The regular procession ends (meaning EVERYONE (except you) should be upfront) and there should be a pause before the wedding march actually begins. THAT is when you enter and traditionally everyone stands. Of course everyone does it differently and tradition is not as solid now but it is YOUR day so ultimately do what feels right for you.