Im currently not happy in our relationship. I feel like he lies all the time, and doesnt really want to be with me. Ive had this conversation before, and i feel like im not initiating the conversation right or he doesnt understand me. Ladies do you have any ideas of how exactly i should bring up this conversation or what i can say to make myself very clear. Im a very blunt person but I cant approach him like that because I always end up hurting his feelings. Please help me.
2007-06-05 10:02:53 · 12 answers · asked by Jackeeeee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My question is why would you want to be with someone that lies all the time and doesn't want to be there? I'm just going to pass off something I learned the hard way long time ago, you can't make someone want to be there or love you. Stop wasting your precious time and move on to someone who is willing to be there...I wish someone would have told me
2007-06-05 10:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think you have to toss up whether its hurting his feelings or you being so unhappy that is more important. I know which one I would choose and it wouldn't be hurting his feelings that's for sure. Just be straight up with him, sit him down and lay it out like it is....and if you really don't have the courage to end it, present him with an ultimatum and have him make the choice. From personal experience, staying in a relationship because its either a habit or its comfortable doesn't work in the long run.... the right man or happiness for you might be just around the corner and you wouldn't even know it.
2007-06-05 10:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come at him REALLY straightforward and straight to the
point! Don't ask questions, just tell him that you feel like
he's a liar and that you go unappreciated, and that you no
longer feel like your needed and that he needs to speak up
if he feels differently. Not later, now!
The thing is not to ask questions. If you had nothing better to
do, I bet you could do that unknowing game all day, couldn't you? I bet. But I garuntee that you probably see something else that you want and now your guy is acting up- Am I right
or wrong?
Don't feel bad... If what I just said sounds good to you, do it,
and set yourself free if you don't like the answer.
2007-06-05 10:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Salemn H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I may not be a woman, but I have some advice. Sometimes you just gotta lay it on him. You're afraid of hurting his feelings, and its holding you back. You can't always protect his feelings, especially if you're trying to get yours across, so be blunt. Tell him exactly what's on your mind. Expect him to get upset, but talk it out with him. Get his side of the fence. A relationship takes work, and it isn't always sunshine lollipops and rainbows. Be direct. Make yourself clear. If he's too much of a wimp to take it, then is he truly worthy of you?
2007-06-05 10:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Niko? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can bring it up anyway you want and as often as you want, it won't make a bit of difference to him. He treats you this way becasue he wants too, if you stop him he will dump you. This is because he is only using you and you haven't figured it out yet.
He is the way he is and isn't going to change, if anything he will just get worse. You can either accept him the way he is or move on. Those are you only two choices with this man.
2007-06-05 10:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever stop to think that the problem isn't him, it's you? I have a feeling you have been hurt in past relationships, and although this guy you are dating now doesn't lie to you and does want to be with you,due to your history you just can't accept it as truth....and you constantly accuse him...
You wouldn't be hurting his feelings if he was lying and he actually didn't care.
You need to get yourself into therapy to help deal with your insecurities - otherwise all you are going to do is push good people away from you.
2007-06-05 10:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His feelings are up to him. If you can't communicate then the relationship is pretty much doomed anyway...but considering you say he "lies all the time" why don't you just make it a goodbye speech and be done with it.
Lying is unacceptable. Period.
2007-06-05 10:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been here done this: but you have to be ready for what his response is. even if it hurts his or your feelings. my opinion is you get what you settle for, and if you settle for him thats what you get. you deserve someone who you can be honest with and that you feel is being honest. you can love someone with all your heart sweety but you cant make them love you back nor make them act right.
you can be with whom ever you choose to be with, you don't have to be with him, its your CHOICE. he should realize this.
he is not the only man in the world, if he cant treat u the way u want and need to be treated then theres someone out there that can and will.
then hes the one that will be missing out. not you.
2007-06-05 10:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really have to ask yourself, what is it that makes you want to be with him. if he's not making you happy, you need to figure out what it is that's making you feel that way. if you're not able to talk to him, then maybe you should start thinking about why you guys are together.
2007-06-05 10:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by crzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me like he doesnt care. you two need to spend one day together. and see what in the world you see in him. and why. also take another day and spend some time. and talk to him.
2007-06-05 10:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by .тнє σяíqíиαℓ cячbαbч. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋