okay what kind of gifts are appropriate to give at the wedding versus the bridal shower?
2007-06-05 09:42:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
house items are always great
never give lingerie at wedding
gift cards
electronics
candles
weekend trip
2007-06-05 09:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the bridal shower is more for things such as lingerie. Wedding gifts should be something from their registry. If they do not have a registry then a good gift is always nice picture frames (they'll be needing some to display wedding pictures), a pretty photo album or scented candles. I've recently seen battery operated candles that give off a glow like a real candle. These can be used anywhere in the house and work great for romance in the bedroom.
2007-06-05 16:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look at it this way. A bridal shower gift is more for the bride. The wedding gift is for the couple.
Now you can get something off of the registry and give it to the bride at the shower. That's fine.
But you can also get her something more sentimental. Especially if you are really close to her. I threw a shower last September for my best friend. She got all sorts of things she registered for, which are very appropriate as wedding gifts.
But she also got other things that wouldn't be a "couple" gift. Like she got some lingere. I also got her all sorts of scrapbooking stuff so she could scrapbook the events leading up to the wedding: shower, bachlorette, and wedding. I also got her flip-flops that said "Bride" on them and had the imprint on the bottom so when she walked it would say "Bride" on the ground. (We were getting pedis and manis the day before the wedding and I thought it would be cute for her to wear to the salon.)
2007-06-05 17:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, one gives smaller gifts at the shower and slightly larger at the wedding. IOW, one might give a small bundle of basic kitchen utensils (wooden spoons and a whisk wrapped in a dishtowel, a set of pothodlers, napkins and rings for two) a household accessory that isn't terribly expensive, but you can never have too many of (picture frames, guest soaps, cookbooks) or something a bit too intimate for a wedding gift (lingerie for the bride, a gift certificate for a spa treatment) at the shower. Then for the wedding, you might give a place setting of china, a set of sheets, or a really good kitchen knife.
If the couple is registered somewhere, their list is an excellent place to start. You can pick something off that for either occasion, certainly, but don't feel tied to the list. You can always get creative. After all, I didn't register for a left-handed bread knife because I didn't know there was such a thing. When I received one at my shower, though, I was delighted.
2007-06-09 16:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give the same type of gifts in either case. Although, some showers are themed, so you'd be better off picking out something from the bridal couple's gift registry. That way you know they'll like it, and they can return/exchange it easily if they get duplicates. If they aren't registered anywhere, I would recommend some type of home decor item (tape the gift receipt to the box).
2007-06-05 16:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by janie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where I'm from, (NYC area) actual gifts are given at the shower, (usually off the registry) and only money in cards is given at the wedding. Two years ago, at my cousin's wedding in North Carolina was the first time I'd ever been to a wedding where there were gift boxes. That was foreign to me - I thought they were decorations at the reception hall!
2007-06-05 20:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a shower, the gift is more modest - usually something for the kitchen, bath... nice set of towels, sheet set, a shelf, some sort of organizers like a cool basket self... For us, the best shower gifts I received were Tupperware (the real stuff), sheets, towels, a pottery tea pot and two mugs (handmade), a huge plant (I think maybe it was a split leaf philodendron), a wedding photo book (handmade), an outdoor planting container with base...
For a wedding, depending on your budget as well, something more substantial - a comforter and pillows, an unusual appliance (ice cream or yogurt maker), clock, funky mirror...
2007-06-05 17:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually buy something from the registry for their shower, and for the wedding, I like to give china if they registered for it or something nice fore their household, like a silver serving platter or something else appropriate for their tastes. Cash is a very popular wedding gift.
2007-06-05 18:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, when you're already invited to a shower and you have given the bride a gift something from their registry, you do not need to get her another gift for the wedding. For gag gifts and lingerie, they're usually for the bachelorette party in which the attendees are younger crowd or the bride's friends. Shower is usually open to any crowds. Hope this helps.
2007-06-05 17:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by cappuccino_lava 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
usually, the bridal shower are things for the bride... fun things.. victoria secrets, lotions, etc. or you can give her smaller items from her registry. gifts that are no more than $50 or so.. then for the wedding, it's about $200 per couple.. you can get ideas from their registry.
2007-06-05 16:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by crzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts for the shower
Cash for the Wedding, but that might be a regional thing
2007-06-05 18:43:15 · answer #11 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋