My ex and I have been apart for a little over 4 yrs, hooking up occassionally. We already have a 5 y/o together & I just found out Im pregnant. We arent together & we have never talked about getting back together. We just enjoy how our lives are right now. After I told him, he tells me he has been talking to someone & they are beginning to get serious. Does this make me look like the bad person on the side by keeping the baby? Should I keep the baby, he doesnt plan on being with me? This is a very weird situation for us...please give me your advice?
2007-06-05 09:42:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all- if you weren't planning on getting back with him you should have wrapped him up. I wouldn't have even been with him again in the first place. Don't have an abortion if you can take care of that baby, and make him take care of it, too. You both made this mistake. His new GF is going to have to deal with the fact that her man is a cheating whore...
2007-06-05 09:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are but you are in a jam either way. I wouldn'''''''t hook up with him any more....he obviously only wants you when it is conveneint for him, he doesn't sound like the type of guy who will accept any responsibility for the child, so you will be all by yourself, all on your own, you can count on that.
Abortion is an individual choice thing, I am a much bigger fan of having the baby and giving it up for adoption and doing a completely unslfish thing that benefits so many people, it turns lemons into lemonade.....it's hard but would be my choice. You don't sound ready to be a mom and you will always be behind if you have it and keep it, good luck, not an easy situation and this is just my opinion. He, your ex, most likely has been seeing her more than a few months, it's not a weird situation for him, he has already jumped ship, don't believe him, you are alone and you need to the right thing for you. again, good luck.
2007-06-05 09:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you look bad. It will probably be more weird for the other girl when you have a baby than it will be for you. I can't help you with the choice to keep the baby or not. You know what is best for you. All children are a blessing though and you have a 5 year old so I am sure you know. It seems to me like you really want to. You also have an extra lady around to help you when you need it, that is, if you like each other.
2007-06-05 09:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, yes you should keep your baby but he doesn't have to be with you. This is a awkward situation but he's deserves to be happy also and if the person he is with now makes him happy then he should be with her as long as he takes care of his children, then there shouldn't be any problems. Moreover, if he is really serious about the other chick then you wouldn't have cheated on her with you and if you two can't seem to keep your hands off each other then maybe you two aren't over each other. Everyone in the situation should decide what they want, make that clear, and stick to it because it isn't fair to anyone especially to the chick he's going out with now because she may really love him & because of you two, she now won't be able to be with him. She may love him to death but what woman would put up with knowing that he will have to be to your house because naturally he would want to see his child which is only right but that is a situation she doesn't have to put up with. She will just have to cut her losses and move on especially if you two hook up occasionally.
2007-06-05 09:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by AWomanScorned 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends do both of you have good jobs? Can you afford to raise this baby? Are you going to be prepared to fight him for child support and if he gives that you still may not be able to get him to visit the child. If abortion is not for you consider adoption so many folks want a baby.
It sounds like he is ready to move on and tying him down with a baby he does not want is not the answer
2007-06-05 09:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not about bein the villian of the movie, is about being responsible.... Are you responsible enough to have this child on yu own? DO you want to keep the baby? if he doesn't wnat to be with you BIG FREAKIIN DEAL! you are not the only or first girl in the face of palnet earth, IS he going to be ther FOR THE BABY? by you feeling weird bcause he is not going to be FOR YOU I sense that you were trying to get pregnant to see if he would come back (unconsciously though) You need to clear your mind, and make sure that whatever descision you are going to make is whhat YOU WANT TO DO! you can't stop your world for others......if that's what you did you should have never done it because that means that you let him use you for his pleasure more then yours Good luck in your descision.
2007-06-05 09:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jeenie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the baby then I think you should - if you got pregnant before he started seeing this other person and don't plan to make trouble between them I don't see how anyone (including the new person) could have a problem with it.
2007-06-05 09:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by andijxo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby is still your child, even if the father is nowhere in site. He is required by law to pay child support, for both children.
No, it does not make you look like the bad one. Don't take your anger out on the unborn child by aborting him/her. If you don't want the baby, put it up for adoption. My older sister and husband wish so hard to have a child.
2007-06-05 09:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i WOULD KEEP the baby. Its your baby too. You kept the 5 year old! Why not keep this one? Look at your 5 year old right in the face and think "could i have gave this up?" You will regret if forever! Who cares if you aren't together.
2007-06-05 09:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by Just here. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no mater what you should keep the baby and my uncle is dating a women who is going 2 have baby and he is not the father but she is keeping the baby.it might be a little weird but in the long run you will be happy and if you already have a kid he might not understand why you had a baby and did not bring it home from the hospital.
2007-06-05 09:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Meggie-Boo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋