why does this B*I*T*C*H think she's entitled to my man because she is white. How can i deal with this fool

Question

This blonde FOOL is driving me crazy & I don’t know what to do.I’m African & I ve been dating a white man for 2 yrs with a painful 6 months breakup in between partly coz of her.She behaves as if she is entitled to him coz she’s white.She’s a spoiled child. She like, my B/friend comes from a wealth family.You can imagine(there’s the culture & status difference)it hasn’t been easy for me to be comfortable around his social circles.Everyone else is fine with me but her.This S*L*U*T & my boyfriend grew up together & were once a couple 4 yrs ago.What led to our break-up?He invited a few close friends that day & she showed up.He & I were in the kitchen getting food,she walked up to him flirting,saying things such as”I know you like it white & clean”I ignored her.He asked her to leave but before she did,she put her hands in his pants grabbing his pensis.I wanted to kill her.He pushed her away,she started laughing with a look that said”what are you going to about it” to me.what can I do?

I have been trying to ignore but there is only so much one can take.my B/friend always pushes her away but she iwll stop at nothing. I'm starting to think maybe some one (like his siter and mother are putting helping her). I think his mother and sister pretend to be ok with me. They have never said or done anything to me but i some how feel they do not like me. On the other hand the dad and brother are great.

She is driving me crazy. She blames me for not getting back together with him.(apparently the time i starting seeing him they were in the process of reconciling but it obviously did not happen because he ended with me). last weekend she did it again and squeezed his butt but this time he called her out for what she is & it was not pretty.she started crying & claimed she didn't intend to squeeze his butt. how can i deal with such a S*L*U*T. She has said alot of negative things about africa & i never respond coz i might just slap her.He has never put me second.

Answer 1

WHY IS IT THAT ONLY BLACK PEOPLE SEEM TO THINK ITS ACCEPTABLE TO BE RACIST TO WHITES BUT NO BODY CAN RETURN THE FAVOUR BACK TO YOU???

Answer 2

Kicking her butt would be fun, but it would probably cause friction between you and your bf. Talk to your bf as calmly as possible so he can see how you feel about her always in your space, You will look like the more mature one. Make him be the one to keep pushing her away. Be as sweet as sugar pie to her, that will scare the crap out of her. They say keep your friends close, but your enemies closer. This way you will always be in the know. Also make her feel uncomfortable around you and your bf, when she's around, try to be as happy and loving to your bf as possible. Get him to sneak off with you, whisper in his ear while around everyone else and make him smile, pat his butt etc. Let her see that the two of you have a relationship she can't break. If she ever puts her hands down his pants again cold-coc that b***h. Your bf should understand and if he doesn't then dust him aside and move on.

Answer 3

I don't promote violence but that chic is overdue for an a s s beating and so is your so called man. He likes what she does to him cause if he didn't he wouldn't allow it happen and he knows how it makes you feel but she still comes over anyway. Name calling isn't going to get her to go away neither is violence sorry about that earlier statement. I suggest that you sit your man down with this chic and tell him that if he wants the b i t c h then he needs to let you know so that you can find someone who is worthy of your love and someone that deserves you and someone who is going to treat you like his equal instead of letting this chic grab all over him. Where is his respect for you? Honestly, it doesn't matter what color she is but you need to set some ground rules for your "man" cause if you don't before too long she is going to be back in his bed and then all you can do is let it go and move on. If he loves you then, he needs to be a man and tell this chic that he is with you now and that she just needs to get over herself. What is stopping him from doing that? Hunny, wake up and open your eyes. You better put your foot down and tell him how the situation sucks and he needs to correct the problem before you are outta his life. Regardless of your color or hers, you are a woman, don't ever let no woman come in and take your man!!!! Stop letting her see you get up set cause she enjoys that the most knowing that it may cause a fight between you and this guy. Don't fall for that BAIT. You have to be the bigger woman and just tell him if he wants you then he needs to deal with this chic and if he wants her then let you know so that you can move on and find someone better.

Answer 4

Do nothing! yep nothing! you are the better and much more classy one. Just let her go. She is hanging herself. Your man obviously is not into this (for the lack of a better word) woman, So don't lower yourself to her level and act all jealous and make him choose. When she is hanging on him Just simply go up to them and put your arms around him and tell him you love him and give him a kiss on the cheek. Smile at her and walk away. This will send her over the edge because your guy is going to tell you he loves you too and kiss you back. Play her game only use more class and you will be the winner! Good luck.

Answer 5

God, I'd say kill the *****, but that would just end up badly for you. Here's my suggestion:

Make it known to your man that you cannot tolerate her being around at all anymore. It is disrespectful to you whether she instigates it or not. Tell him to think about the situation if it were reversed and your ex was doing this to him.

If he still insists on her being around then dump him. It'll hurt for a while, but you will be so much better off!

Answer 6

It obvious that she looking for a fight and probably going to use that as an excuse to make you look like some out-of-control African chick who dont deserve to be with the white man or she just extremely jealous of you and your dark skin and maybe to the fact that her ex-man could actually fall in love with the dark meat. or she doesn't want you to get a hold of his family wealth after she work so hard and kiss some much a*s to work her way into the family. I would let your man decide who he wants and let him put this chick in check for you.

Answer 7

That's bad, I would talk to your boyfriend about her and ask why he let's her do that type of stuff to him. He probably enjoys that and he likes her again so just try to get away from him and her and get a new boyfriend. Good luck you need it with her and it should not be if you are black or white what matters is the love and he isn't feeling it for you from what you said earlier

Answer 8

Well, if you two have been together that long and are in love then ask him to keep her away. Sacrafices have to be made for serious relationships and he should understand that.
I doubt she thinks shes entitled to him because she's white, she's just using that against you because in America interracial relationships aren't as hated, but are still considered "taboo" as messed up as that is.
Don't hate all white people because of that hooker though!

Answer 9

I think you should ignore her sweetie or just move somewhere else. ur bf is wrong for letting this happen n for her bad behavior! his mom n sister probably dont like you becuh of ur color which personally i think is wrong! we are all people your bf loves you n you love him IGNORE THE GIRL! n tell him to lose all contact with her Or jus tell ur bf to put a restraning order on the girl so it can solve all problems. your bf is trying to move on with his life n make one with you puh yet his ex is getting n the wai! i think nxt time she does that you should hurt her! if i was you i would b mad to. jus stay calm when the nxt time it happens puh a restraning order on her! g0od luck =]]

Answer 10

He has no respect for you no matter what color he is, or he would have told the ***** off. He is allowing this person to still be in his life and its messed up your courtship. He must still like her to let her do all that in front of you. Dump him girl.. you find better out there, black or white or purple. She is just messy and he loves that in her. They deserve each other as messy as they are.

Answer 11

If you don't trust your man, then you shouldn't be dating him. The problem is not her, it is him.

If you have discussed your feelings (calmly -- no shouting & no name calling) with your boyfriend, and he still insists on hanging out with her, then he does not care about you. Find a better boyfriend.