why is so difficult to be GAY and MORMON?

Question

I am gay and I am mormon.

My church (LDS church) teaches that homosexuality is a sin.... but I did not choose it. As far as Ic an remember even from when I was 4 or 5 I was always the way I am now. I would prefer grils things than boys things.

For many years I've suffered, and now I decided that enough is enough........ I want my sexuality but I don't want to loose my religion.

Suggestions?
Love

These are really interesting answers even the homophobic ones. At the end of the day I'm not the one who is wrong 'coz I didn't invent religion. I am a natural man trying to live in a man-made world.

Also, please don't get too personal with me, as far as I know I haven't slept with any of you.............

As far as my sexuality is concerned, I have resolved that many years ago....... and thanks to many answers here I think my place in GOD is assuming who I am and continue to love HIM/HER/THEM.

If there is a hell, I'm sure I'm not going to see some of you there.

Love to all!

Answer 1

I might be off on this but I've understood that you can be gay in the LDS church as long as you are not having a homosexual relationship. Maybe someone else knows more about this than I do.

gw

Answer 2

Why do you want to keep a religion that you do not agree with. The belief system you will derive the most value from is one that you are naturally drawn to and you resonate with the teachings. You should not have to feel guilt for your sexual orientation and a religion that teaches you it is a sin is going to cause guilt, remorse and self-condemnation. That is my definition of Hell.

You cannot have both your sexuality and your religion and not live a conflicted life. You must make a choice if you want true liberation. Otherwise, you'll be forced to live your life in the closet.

Answer 3

You might enquire of BYU's Psychology Department about their former Homosexual Aversion Therapy/Treatment. They'll connect you to an impressive machine that will deliver electrical shocks to your johnson when you are presented with gender-specific pornography. This scientific procedural breakthrough was discontinued in the 1990s or 80s when it was discovered it really didn't 'cure' anyone of a genetic disposition.

You're left with either lying to the bishop to get a temple recommend, or confessing to him. He is no doubt unprepared to offer any counsel except "Pray and study the scriptures" (The mormon cure-all of everything), unless he becomes outrightly hostile to you.

There are other groups that can give you a lot more freedom of thought than the mormons. Mormonism is the last place you will find solace.

Good luck.

Answer 4

We believe that God tells us that sexual relations is sanctioned only between a man and a woman who are legally wed. Any other sexual relations is a sin, including homosexual relations.

If you TRULY believe what the LDS (Mormons) believe, then you know that you must be chaste and celebate unless and until you are legally married to a person of the opposite sex.

Perhaps your feelings are not chosen by you, I can't speak about that. BUT, how you ACT on those feelings is a CHOICE that YOU make. If you are told "God said don't do that" and you do it, then you must then take the consequences.

You must choose. Do you follow God or do you follow your baser instincts?

Answer 5

If you give your life to Christ He will makes you a new creation and the gay lines are edited off and you can live normally and serve Him all the days of your life.

Maybe the Mormon would not be the best platform to do your service. Get a Bible believing church, that will help you overcome the sins of life by repentance and asking Him to 'make me over'.

Otherwise this business of believing i was born a thief, swindler, liar or whatever and so i cannot change is bullshit and nosense. Accepts Him to make you over, sodomy and gomorrah was destroyed for this very same act that lots of you out there now idolise. Its called sexual immorality its not an ordinary sin.

The Bible says there are sins leading to death, i want to beleive this queer taste sydrome must be dealt with. How come everyone wakes up and say even when i was 4/5 years i fanced this , or that. I dont hate people but these practices need to be sorted out by yourself.

Answer 6

I'm not questioning, or judging your sexuality. I think homosexuality is very normal. What I don't understand is your understanding of your sexual preference at the age of 4 or 5. I didn't even have an earthly clue about who I was sexually attracted to at that age.

Answer 7

I guess it will cause chaos if they did accept it..........

I mean as I understand it a man can have as many wives as he wants?

If they accept gay partners......how many could you have? how will it work....how do you determine the head of the house who is entitled to as many partners as they like.....I also taking into account lesbian relationships.

Add on: I cant beleive what awful comments you have on here if you are gay its not somethng you can change and whats wrong with that any way? seems you have more of a problem with people outside mormon faith!

Answer 8

Be like me, and just worship God as you want. I refuse to be part of any religion, they all teach hate and prejudice as far as I am concerned. So, I pray to God on a daily basis, and I know that He is there for me.

Of course, we could start our church, huh?
The Church of the All Accepting God, and have gay preachers. I think that would be cool!!

Answer 9

I'd say just be who you want to be and accept God and faith in your heart as a personal thing only for you.

Answer 10

The morman bit is the concern not the gay