We just received an invitation to my husband's cousin's wedding. The invitation was addressed "Eric and Kendra and kids" but the invitation specifies "Adult Reception." I am a little confused by this. We live out of state and will not be attending if we can't bring our kids. Any suggestions as to how I should interperate this?
2007-06-05 09:23:29 · 15 answers · asked by scrabblenut79 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Why not ask? What you described was a bit contradictory.
(1) Possibly it was an oversight on the husband's cousin's part. They obviously knew that you were bringing children because the invitation was to "Eric, Kendra, and the kids."
(2) They may want to exclude children who were not addressed in the invitation. For instance, people that live in the same town could leave their kids at home with a babysitter.
(3) If the family really doesn't want ANY kids underfoot at the reception, you may ask if there is somebody in the family that can babysit the kids during the reception.
2007-06-05 09:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means they're invited to the wedding ceremony, but they are not invited to the reception.
You need to find out if they are making any arrangements for out-of-state children (a babysitter at an in-law's house, etc.) which would be polite if they're planning an adults only reception and know that out-of-state relatives have kids.. Otherwise, they expect you to arrange for your own babysitting at the hotel or at the home where you're staying.
If good babysitting is arranged, consider going to the wedding even if the kids can't go to the reception. Weddings are not only an opportunity to wish a couple well, but they are a chance for the family to get together in a happy setting. Several aunts and uncles died in the year following my wedding, which turned out to be the last time the family was together. If you aren't comfortable with the babysitting arrangements, just send a nice present and let them know you couldn't make suitable childcare arrangements but you hope their day is wonderful. In a few years when they have kids they'll understand better..
2007-06-05 09:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that they understand that you would not come w/o the kids and they really want you to come, so they are making an exception for your family. This is done quite often. The usual or local guests are "adult only" but out of town guests or close family members are expected to bring their children. Have fun.
P.S. I always enjoy weddings and reception more when children are included. After all, weddings celebrate family and children certainly are a vital part of a family. I've already told my kids that when they get married we are going to have a bounce house for all the children that attend.
2007-06-05 09:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by ohbrother 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids at the wedding ok find a sitter for the reception. all the family kids will probably end up at one place make some phone calls and see what others are doing for a sitter the kids would like hanging with other kids more anyhow.
2007-06-05 09:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by insomniman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 12:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that your family is invited to the wedding itself, but only yourself and your husband are invited to the reception.
2007-06-05 09:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by wolfwoods01girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would take that to mean that there will be alcohol served and that they are expecting it to get a little crazy. Maybe you can call and ask, maybe they will have the beginning so anyone can attend, when they cut the cake, etc. and then you can leave once the "party" gets going.
2007-06-05 09:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by artbyheather04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking there may be some place for kids, but the reception will be serving alcohol.
2007-06-05 09:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No kids to the reception, but they can come to the ceremony.
2007-06-05 09:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by DAR76 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the RSVP number and ask. Never assume. It would be awful to make the trip assuming the kids are welcome only to find out they are not. Then what do you do? Or if you assume they are not welcome, and hire a babysitter and go to wedding to find you could've brought them ,you will be disappointed. So ask. Communication is the key.
2007-06-05 09:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋