Ok, my sister's boyfriend is a jerk (to put it nicely so the question doesn't get deleted). He told my sister he was going to the zoo with a friend and her son and would be back by the time she got home from work. Before he leaves (this is after she has already gone to work), he tells my mom they are going to the zoo, but aren't going to be back until Sunday (he said this Friday). Then when he comes back, he tells my sister that they decided to go to the beach instead which is in the other direction than the zoo. Obviously, they had already planned this. They stayed at the beach in one hotel room from Friday night to Sunday morning. This is just the latest in a neverending saga which leaves my sister ready to kick him out of the house. That is until he gets home. Once she sees him, she gives into him. Would you let it run its course and keep letting her make stupid choices, or would you approach her and tell her she's not the only one tired of his crap, and she needs to do something?
2007-06-05 09:00:43 · 12 answers · asked by Desperate for Answers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You really need to stay out of this...I know having sisters myself i have had to sit back and watch them make mistakes after mistakes and they learned from them...But...I am always there to lend a ear or a shoulder to cry on...Now, if they asked me a direct question about how i felt about the person they were dating, well...that's a different story, they all know I'm brutally honest....
2007-06-05 20:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell her how it's killing you to see her acting so foolishly with this guy and that she can do so much better... that she doesn't deserve to put up with his s*it any longer. And once she realizes it she's gonna wish she hadnt dealt with it for so long. Theres really nothing you can do or say that’s going to make her leave him right away…. You are free to give her your input in all the situations you can until she tells you she’s heard enough. Until then, it’s something she has to realize on her own. Right now she doesn’t know what she’s worth and that's why she stays with this jerk. Just be supportive and don’t put her down for putting up with such a loser, just be there for her when she needs you. Good Luck with this.
2007-06-05 16:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by LilMiss143 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her out for a weekend. Tell the BF you're going somewhere else for a few hours and disappear for a few days, and if he gets an attitude towards her, then she'll know he's not for her. I'd defianately help her realize what a jerk this guy is, talk to her about it, see how she really feels, maybe she really wants out of the situation but doesnt know how to do it, i've been there, i know how that is.
2007-06-05 16:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by mannasox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would MOST DEFINITELY mention something. We all have dealt (and will deal) with our own share of jerks and sometime we wished that somebody would have said something like "hey you're way too good for this guy". I'd approach her and tell her how you feel, that you think that you owe it her to let her know what you think since she's your sister and you hope she would do the same thing for you!
2007-06-05 16:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by Manhan32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the more you interfer with her love life the more she will want to hang on to him.
Sometimes it is best to let people make their own mistakes and just be there for them when they do finally realize it is/was a mistake.
I know this has to be hard for you but I know you hve heard of TOUGH LOVE before ...
2007-06-05 16:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU need to STAY OUT of it because all it is going to do if you interfer is cause problems between you and you sister. She has obiviously made her choice .
2007-06-05 16:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough situation, but that's your sister. you care for her don't you? i'd go up to her boyfriend/husband/hubby w/e. and be like listen dude.. u need to fa breezeeee. sit her down, and tell her about this. he needs to get out of her life.
2007-06-05 16:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by mets_chavez 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Saying something to her will probably just make her dislike you. This is something she is going to have to figure out for herself. I'm not saying you have to act like you like him, but telling her she's making stupid choices is just going to make her mad-at you.
2007-06-05 16:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by susan t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Untill she is ready to do something about him there is nothing you can do . she has to be the one to do something about him . Just be there for her is all you can do . good luck .
2007-06-05 16:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd mind my own business and let her work out her own pathetic love life.
2007-06-05 16:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋