of three years was having an affair with the best man (my cousin) and works nights at a Gentlemans Club............ How do i avoid a confrontation with her
2007-06-05 08:47:47 · 78 answers · asked by bust15nutz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The best way to get back at her is leave her at the alter waiting for you. Maybe ur cousin will play Captain Save-a-hoe and marry her instead.
2007-06-05 13:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by JuDyLicious 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You will not be happy with this woman. She doesnt love you and has no respect for you. There is nothing wrong with working in a gentlemen's club, but there is a problem that she didn't tell you about it and it is very wrong to be having an affair especially with a family member or friend of yours. In my opinion if a person is in love then the thought of having another person touch then is disgusting. It seems obvious that you love this woman, but I truly do believe she will only bring you more pain in the future and you should put yourself first in this situation and do what is best for you. I wouldnt even worry about her feelings. I would tell her exactly how I feel and let her know you're happy you found out now what kind of person she is before you married her. Doesnt sound to me like she deserves a man like you. Good luck.
2007-06-05 09:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Dont. First of all after finding that out you should be VERY upset , and a confrontation with her should be the least of your worries. There are many desicions left on your plate. Do you still want to marry her? Do you break it up? Its not going to be easy, but the first place to start would be to talk to her, only if you are VERY SURE of what she has been doing. You dont want to accuse her falsely. If I were you I would stop the marriage, because you may end up making the worst mistake of your life. She obviously is not as commited as you are to her, and why get involved deeply with someone that obvisouly doesnt care? If you really Love her then I know how hard this must be. Just dont be stupid and fall into an even bigger trap, this is obviously a sign to DO SOMETHING...
2007-06-05 08:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by surfer2thextreme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid a confrontation?...I think you better confront her. There's no way I would marry a woman who's cheating on me right up to the wedding day. Do you really think it's going to end there?...I would stop the wedding, it's a whole lot easier than getting a divorce afterwords, and a whole lot cheaper too. If she's cheating on you now she WILL cheat on you after she's got you. Your cousin?...Wow, what a piece of work he must be...I wouldn't have anymore dealings with either of them....
2007-06-05 09:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Domino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say "was" or "is" having an affair. Marriage is for life and should not be taken lightly. If it the answer is "was", you need to find out how long, is it over and is this something you are willing to forgive and start a new life with. I would suggest holding off on the marriage (who cares what others think...you need to make the right choice since this is your life we are talking about!) and seek some professional help. Good luck, I hope you make the right choice.
2007-06-05 08:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to confront her, not avoid it. If you still want to get married and work this out, you HAVE to tell her that you know, but make sure that it is really true first. She may be doing this because she's afraid to get married, and you need to know before Saturday. Definately talk to her before the wedding. Good luck!
2007-06-05 09:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by jraebif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't avoide a confrontation with her! You need to get out of the relationship before you tie the knot man! You'll never be happy with this woman. Better to look like an idiot now than to be miserable for the next however-many years!
2007-06-05 08:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your kidding right?
I think there is really no way to avoid a confrontation, maybe you can write a letter and go on the honeymoon alone to get out of town, just to be alone and think. Also your cousin should have told you something..I am sorry for your heartbreak and loss...good luck
2007-06-05 08:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any way to avoid a confrontation with her. But be sure to do it before Saturday. Leaving her stuck at the altar is a chicken-s**t thing to do. Be a man - break it off with her immediately! Unless you are into getting walked on.
2007-06-05 08:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by porcelina_68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not you again! How long does it take you to think these questions? Well if you really want to avoid a confrontation, just pretend you didn't find out and ask her if after you are married if she minded if you saw other people. At least that way you'll both live happily ever after.
2007-06-05 08:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is clearly not in a position to get married. Rethink whether you really want to spend the rest of your lives together. if you give it time and both come to the conclusion that you love each other, then get married later on, but right not is not the time. I would suggest relationship counseling. Pray about it, too. Marriage is a vocation, and maybe it isn't meant for you right now. It is a much wiser idea to get this out in the open and deal with it now than get married and then hand her divorce papers in 6 months.
2007-06-05 08:52:34 · answer #11 · answered by naomihahr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋