Now before you answer let me explain the circumstances. My bf and his ex have a son togheter so he feels like it wouldnt be a big deal if he got a gift from her..But I feel like she is trying to take the spot that belongs to me..I know we dont have a son togheter yet, but I still would like to get him a fathers day present while knowing that she isnt going to give him one also...
2007-06-05 08:46:45 · 8 answers · asked by surfer2thextreme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget it.
Not only is she a part of his life, she always will be. If you dislike her, I suggest you quit him and find a different boyfriend, whose baby daddy mama you like better . . . . .
2007-06-05 08:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in this predicament too. Well if she does get him a present try really hard not to be mad about it be as graceful as possible. She's doing it (more than likely) for her son to be able to give his dad a fathers day gift. Not to sound rude, but that spot is not yours it's his sons or if he is to young to buy something, his mothers. Something you can do is help his son make something like a card or something of that nature. Your bf would probably adore you for the effort. I know ex's are hard to deal with when there are kids involved, just try not to take anything too personally. If he wanted her he would be after her and not with you. Remeber just look at his son, smile and say oh that is so sweet and such a nice present. You don't want to be the wicked step mother.
2007-06-05 09:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by tnca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. I still buy a gift for my ex-husband from our kids even though he is remarried. It is the father of her child so she would like to acknowledge that. I think it is nice that they are able to maintain a good relationship for their son. Don't try to mess that up with your insecurities. You can still do something as well but you need to accept that the mother of his son will always be a part of your lives together.
2007-06-05 08:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine, they share a child together. She has every right to celebrate the fact that he is the father of her child. That is what father's day is, a celebration of fathers.
Getting upset over this situation is immature, he has a child with this woman, she is always going to be in his life. They are always going to talk, they are always going to maintain contact, and so they should for the sake of their son. If you cannot trust him or respect that he is going to have his son's mother in his life you need to remove yourself from the equation.
2007-06-05 08:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by smedrik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have a son together she's always going to be in his life and I think it's great she can celebrate that even if they're not together. He's not your father and you don't have a child together so why would you be getting him a Father's Day gift?
2007-06-05 08:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jenner B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off their if no spot that belongs to you...you do not own the "father day gift giving person place". if they have a son together then it should be fine cause maybe she is doing it for her son, who maybe too young to do it himself. when you are a parent it feels good to recieve gifts on those days. unless she is giving him personal items then let it slide.
2007-06-05 09:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by machgirl21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted your spot, she'd still be in it. If she wanted him to be chasing her, he would be.... he already did, and people like wine, only get better over time. They must not want each other if they are not into each other period, so I'd say that you are safe, forget about it.
2007-06-05 08:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much you can do about it.
2007-06-05 08:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋