I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday morning. We went out for over a year, but the whole time we only really saw each other at school and very rarely outside of it. We talked online sometimes, and hardly ever on the phone. It felt like it just was time to end things. When he told me he'd be gone all summer, that confirmed it for me. But when I broke up with him, he seemed hurt, and all day today when I saw him he gave me cold, icy stares. I love him terribly, and I don't know what to do. Is it okay to call him and talk things through? Or just wait and talk to him tomorrow at school? Should I try to get back together with him, or just move on? We are both 15, by the way.
2007-06-05 08:22:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should feel a little hurt, it shows you really cared for him. I t sounds to me like you guys define realtionships differently, and if thats the case it's probably best to split up. However, you should wait until he can look at you without bad feelings before you try contacting him as a friend. No you shouldn't get back with him...you're not ready to settle...you're to young. One day someone will probably do to you what you did to him, and they won't be wrong either.
2007-06-05 08:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Brian M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with someone of course you feel terrible but what you should feel bad about is not offering to be just friends, because lets face it ... that's all you were.
He's angry right now, he'll need space ... and so do you, if your still wanting to be friends I would wait till the summer and/or even next school year. 15 is young you need time to go out and be a teenager ... date .. see friends .. and in time you'll see that this was more of a friendship than anything else.
2007-06-05 08:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... you said a lot here which indicates this guy isn't for you. And if he pressures you about a lot of things, no wonder you were uncomfortable! This is likely the reason he has been "hurt" before. It seems to me he caused the situation and your discomfort which is a big reason for the break-up. It always hurts to break up, and we can't just toss our feelings of love and care into the trash. It takes time to get through things after a break-up, and t his is called "the grieving process". It's healthy, even if it doesn't feel that great. Yes, you're right - take care of YOU first. If a man causes us to feel uncomfortable and pressures us, they are being selfish. Your feelings should have been taken into consideration and he needed to accept you as you were, not try to make you do things you aren't ready for or do not want to do. It's wrong. there is no reason to beat the crap out of yourself emotionally because you did what felt right for YOU. No one wants to hurt someone else, but breaking up is sometimes necessary. With each passing relationship we learn a bit more about being in one (at least, i hope so!). Take care of you. You're doing the right thing
2016-05-17 11:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by geri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thoughts are incompatible with your feeling. You love him terribly, but you broke up with him. Odd.
Don't call him. Let him work through this. If you call then there will be a lot of emotions, and a lot of things said in anger. It will do little good. You'll probably end up back together. If you're sure it was the right thing to do, and it sounds like it was, then let him work through it.
2007-06-05 08:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do for yourself is to move on with your life and let the past be the past. Nothing worked out for the two of you, so you felt really unhappy about the relationship. You have every right to be honest with yourself and you felt that the relationship was going nowhere! Don't talk to him and its best that you leave him alone and keep your distance! Good luck and I wish you the best!
2007-06-05 08:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is fine to talk things through with him and telling him why you made this decision. but getting back together is not for the best you should just focus on school and family. plus he is leaving for the summer so if you guys do get back together you will never see him and hardly talk to him so it would be pointless. but let him know your sorry and you still want to be friends. good luck.
2007-06-05 08:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Adina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him about things and tell him what made you feel you had to do this and hear his side of the story too. but I would give him a liitle space and alone time before talking to him. maybe send him an e mail or text him saying you would like to talk to him tomorrow. but don't say anything in the e mail about how you feel or what not. just say can we talk tomorrow would you be up for that? just talk to him and see where things go and what you guys want to do.
2007-06-05 08:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww breaking up is a terrible thing but you just have to listen to your head rather than your heart in this moment in time .. if you want to talk to him then TALK to him make him see that you really didn't want to break the friendship .. x
You'll find a way out =D
Helen .. x
2007-06-05 08:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Samia ' ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you did not want him then he should deal with it. Your to young to worry about guys right now. Let him be and he will hopefully realize he is being immature and talk to you. I hope you two become friends maybe try again later when your older.
2007-06-05 08:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, he probably had another girlfriend anyways. He gave you "icy stares" because he wanted to do it to you. Don't talk to him every again. Get on with your life woman!
2007-06-05 08:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by Wierd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋