my cousin who is 16 is getting married in about a month. i dont know what to tell her when she ask what i think about it. her boyfriend or i should say fiance is 18. and she is still in highschool. im just looking out for her and her future.
2007-06-05 07:59:25 · 23 answers · asked by renee_q_2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
50% of all marriages now end in divorce. The younger you are, the more likely you'll end in divorce. I don't want to be a pessimist but 16 is WAY too young to even think about who you want to spend the rest of your life with. What do you tell her? Tell her that while you think it's too young, you're happy if she's happy. The only thing you can do is support her in the good times and bad. That's what family is for.
2007-06-05 08:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I went through this with my sister who was a college freshman. She got engaged and married quite rapidly (like within a few months). YES it is a very stupid thing to do...young, WAY too young. (I can say that as I was married at 18) The person that you would choose to marry while in you are in your teens is NOT the person that you would choose if you were more mature...say 25 or 30. I think she is lucky to have you as a concerned relative...but it doesn't really matter how YOU feel or what YOU say...they will probably go through with it anyway unless she sees the light for herself. It doesn't matter if you are standing in front of her waving a neon sign, she will be blind to it coming from you. It has to come from within. If you say anything, you run the risk of alienating her and I'm sure you wouldn't want that.
2007-06-05 08:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely too young to tie the knot. Ask her if she had any pre-marital counseling? Tell her to read some books about marriage before taking the plunge. Marriage is not only about love, it consists of many other aspects. And certainly a 16 year old is not ready for such a big commitement.
2007-06-05 08:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married at 18 and i regret it. It is way to young. you are such a young person at this age, and you dont know who you are yet. i am a complletely different person now that i was then and that was only 5 years ago! there is no way that i would marry who i did, now like i did 5 years ago. we are still married, but unhappily.
So tell your cousin to seriously think about this. it is not like a long date, marrage is supposed to be for life.
There are marrages that last a lifetime, and if your cousin is lucky and is willing to work hard, she will have that too, in the end it is up to your cousin , but i highly regard you for being worried for her.
2007-06-05 08:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by sammie p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta think, if she ends up getting pregnant will she leave school? will her husband support her? where will they live? can they financially support themselves? do they both have the same long term goals? personally i think that 16 is too young to marry, i wouldn't know what i wanted in a husband except superficial things. plus im gonna change and he would too would we still like each other? marriage is meant to last 'til death parts you, are you ready for that sort of comitment at 16? dating is preparation for marriage so i wouldn't even start dating until im like 18 or 19, may be 20 depending on when i meet someone who i like and he likes me. also why does she want to get married? if its to get away from family than that is not a good reason. marriage is too complicated for youths like myself to go through
2007-06-05 08:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine that she will have to give up many things she loves. Maybe when all her friends go to the beach her husband to be will want to go walking or stay at home. Or when she wants to go dancing he wants to watch a movie. She's going to miss out on a lot because now she will have to consult everything with him and it won't just be her. It will be her and so and so. So if she wants to do that you can't stop her. & she'll have to learn from her own mistakes. The average age for marriage in the united states is 26 for men and 25 for women. That would be like a baby trying to run before he can crawl. & with marriage comes babies and everything. Hope she's ready!
2007-06-05 08:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sound of Madness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too young. She doesn't even know who she is yet. She needs to grow up first. Her ideal man might be way different when she has had time to figure out what she wants from life. I got married at 18 and that was way too young. It hasn't been easy.
2007-06-05 08:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by sweetypie_617 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 16 is way too young to tie the knot! That's her business. You can't stop her so save your breath. You live and you learn.
2007-06-05 08:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by JamaicanGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!! 16 IS TOO YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If those two really love one another, they should be willing to stand the test of time and wait a few years- preferably wait like 8 years. Even if she's pregnant, she shouldn't get married just because it's the "right" thing to do. They'd be doomed!
2007-06-05 08:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too young. Imagine spenging the REST of your LIFE with 1 person. She still has a lot of growing up to do. She will just become a statistic. You should tell her to wait.
2007-06-05 08:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by sdgirljen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋