im not gay, just wondering what people would do
2007-06-05 07:58:28 · 29 answers · asked by sorry... my umbrella is full 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
me, i would still love them in a way but i would also be so upset, because to me it's not normal, so i might dis-own them.
2007-06-05 08:14:31 · update #1
Love them anyway
2007-06-05 21:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I do have a gay son. When he "came out" to us, we already had a suspicion that he was gay. At first, it was hard to deal with. As a parent, I felt as though I had failed him somehow, that it was my "fault" or my husband's "fault". However, as the months and now the years have gone by, it is easy to see that the person he was before he said the words, "I am gay" and the person he was after he told us didn't change one bit . What I recommend as a parent of a gay son, is to not say anything right away. Anything you say will be based on emotion and not fact and I guaranteed at least some of what you say you'll regret. Acknowledge that you heard what he/she said, but respectfully ask for a few days to think and absorb this information. Then, have a talk, ask questions, agree to disagree, keep the communication line open, and above all else, tell your child that you love him/her. It is still hard sometimes. He is our only son and I often mourn the fact that I will never have a daughter-in-law and it makes me sad that not everyone accepts him for the person he really is (compassionate, kind, generous, honest, hard-working, reliable, and extremely talented in music and art) and can only focus on his gay-ness. We never considered dis-owning him nor did our love for him ever change.
2007-06-05 15:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
At first you might try to talk to them about why, and tell them no matter what they do (even if they have a sex change) you'll always love and support them as you did before when you knew that they were strait...normal...not gay...(OMG WHY?!?!) But i think it's a selfish decision, not considering your family's thoughts, belief, and religion. And no matter what gay people say, it's a sin no matter what, whether your Christian or not, and the Bible says so. It most likely would tear the parent apart to know their child was different in that way...Sad endings...
2007-06-05 15:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
How could you disown a child for being gay? My son's sexuality has nothing to do with my relationship with him. I just want him to be happy. If he is happy when he is in a loving relationship with another man, more power to him. And I will be his fiercest supporter.
2007-06-05 15:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Einin-c 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If my husband and i had a gay son or daughter....hmm. I have thought of this before actually. My conclusion is this. The only reason a child grows up being sexually attracted to the same sex is if they happen to be the 1% that are actually born with something messed up in their bodies, they don't have both parents as a part of their lives. I mean really a part of their lives, not just in the same house. Also if they are hurt repeatedly by a boy/girl friend they tend to lean toward the same sex for support and encouragements. OR it's the popular thing to be or rebelling against their parents.
God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. He created us this way so we can reproduce. Two men or two women can't do this naturally. Being gay is not natural, it's something people choose to be, they are not born this way no matter what anyone says.
2007-06-05 15:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by ~Angel Eyed Pookie~ 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Love them!
2007-06-05 15:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Queen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing different then if i had a straight son or daughter. My partner and i are both bi, my partner identifies as more gay then bi, so it would be quite hypocritical of us to judge anyone about their lifestyle choices. Gay or straight, they are still human.
2007-06-05 15:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love them and support them. They are my kids and as long as they aren't out murdering people I will love them to the end.
2007-06-05 15:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Harley 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would understand they are who they are, and support them through whatever they endure.
Being openly gay isnt that easy and I would comfort and cheer them on for the rest of their lives.
I would not love them one ounce less.
2007-06-05 15:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by MommyTwice-TwiceTheLove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't look at it that way. I think it's a choice, so I would do everything I could to lead them in the right direction. That's why we are Christians involved in our church youth programs and so on.
I could never disown my child but I really don't know what I'd do if once they were grown (21 or older) and chose to live that lifestyle. I pray to God that it doesn't happen!
Good question! Have a good day too!
2007-06-05 15:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lakin J 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Love them and be there for them more than before because of all of the negativity and persecution they will get.
2007-06-05 15:03:45 · answer #11 · answered by NONAME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋