Now my fiance and I are escaping the stress and going to Key West by ourselves....is that rude?
2007-06-05 07:53:49 · 18 answers · asked by Tamekia Anderson 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Problems that I faced that made me decide to have a destination wedding...hmmm. dealing with people that are not responsible and dont seem to care about your special day.
2007-06-05 08:08:23 · update #1
No, not rude, you don't "owe" anyone a wedding. It's entirely your choice - and I can totally agree that it is incredibly stressful trying to keep everyone happy. We chose to have a very informal wedding, and people just had to get over it. Congrats.
2007-06-05 11:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not rude. Almost everyday someone on this forum is posting a question about what to do with someone who is interfering in the wedding planning or isnt being responsible. For some reason people seem to think a wedding is about them and the guests instead of the bride and groom. I just do not understand this. I guess I'm lucky that my family cares more about me than who I'm inviting. It's a shame that you put so much into making your perfect wedding to have it ruined by people stressing you out. If you want to elope then go for it and no apologies. If someone asked you why you did it, be honest and tell them that people were ruining it for you. This is the most important day in your lives and it should be enjoyable for both of you. Congrats and have fun.
2007-06-05 15:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do the parents feel about it? A wedding with all the guests is quite stressful, but in the end, you'll be so glad to have shared it with the many who care about you! You can definetly go to Key West after and get away from it all!
2007-06-05 14:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by helper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its disappointing I'm sure because you put so much time and effort into it....but take it from someone who was miserable her entire wedding day because of other people (me), getting away is the way to go. Weddings are so stressful and other people can just make it even worse. I say go for it! If other people think it's rude, just kindly let them know that your wedding day is about you and your future husband, you are doing what the two of you wish to do and they should be happy for you no matter how you spend your day.
Best of Luck!!
2007-06-05 14:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Des 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, in the end, whatever makes you guys happy and keeps you stress-free is what is right. Remember, marriage isn't about the wedding, it's about two people forming a life together. If you can start that life with minimal stress and no arguments about centerpieces, you'll have a much happier marriage.
2007-06-05 15:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta give us more detail hon!
Were the mother's getting in the way, was this turning into more tears of sadness than joy?
Or after all the blood sweat, money and tears you all just said Screw it and are running off like two spoiled brats?
What's the story?
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Well if no one is losing out on a big chink of change then you have every right to go off and do your thing. I understand mother's have waited for this day too, but it's your day and you need to be happy! Plus this let's everyone know real quick you will not be intimidated and you know where your boundaries lie!
2007-06-05 14:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by shortnstoudt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude per say...but just think twice especially if you have money invested and people who are looking foward to it. It may seem stressful right now (believe me... I am 39 days away from the big day) but in the end it'll all be worth it. Is eloping what you REALLY want to do...or are you just frazzled right now? Congrats no matter what!
2007-06-05 15:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wedding planner told me that the wedding isn't about the bride, it is about making everyone else happy. The honeymoon and the rest of your life is about you and your husband. If everything is planned then just relax and let things happen. the hard part is over. Your friends and family will never forgive you for cutting them out of the "most important event of your lives". Think about that when you make this decision.
2007-06-05 15:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by hattiefrederick 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If everything was planned for a different location and you have now decided to go to Key West, then YES.
2007-06-05 15:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why spend all that time planning, only to elope? It's your wedding but I'm sure family & friends will be really upset. Make it up to them by having a really nice reception after you two return.
2007-06-05 15:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋