My 2 1/2 year old wont stop playing with herself?

Question

She always puts her hands down her pants and plays with herself, and what is worse, she grinds on things, like the arm chair of the couch and the edge of the toilet. i find that i cant lay on the floor with her anymore, because she will jump on me and start grinding on my legs or tummy! i was not worried about it, but she wont stop it! when i ask her what she is doing she just says 'no', and she is not in contact with any other non family members, like babysitters or anything so i am pretty sure this is not coming from someone else. so what the hell? Anyone gone through this?

i know family members are also sexual members, but the only people who come into cntact with my daughter are his parents, and us, plus my sisters in law, and there are a lot of kids in this family. i am a mamma bear when it comes to my baby, and if i thought there was even a faint possiblility of this being the side affects of abuse i would be on the case like a hound dog.

i have also told her that she can do it in her bedroom, but to no avail.

also there is no way she has seen this at home!!! Really... no way.... trust me!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

FAMILY MEMBERS CAN SEXUALLY ABUSE CHILDREN TO.

Answer 2

My 2 1/2 year-old daughter does that, too! I was talking to a woman who has a 6 year old daughter (who's been doing it for years) and she's spoken to her pediatrician who said it's pretty common for girls to do that. My 5 year-old son pulls on his penis all the time when going potty or in the bath tub and people tell me "boys will be boys", but rarely do people talk about what girls do. The peds said that it's totally natural and not a sign of anything negative and don't make a big deal about it or make them feel ashamed. If I notice it, I don't ask her about it, but tell her if she wants to do that go in her bedroom and close the door. She doesn't listen to me yet, but I'm sure it will sink in eventually. I'll just check in with my doc at her 3 year check up. Good luck... and remember, she's normal!

Answer 3

That is so weird. Maybe she was rocking on something and it gave her a feeling down there that she liked. I know you said that there could be no possibility that someone did it to her but if she's around other little kids you never know what they could have done to her. When kids are around other children we parents let our guard down because we don't assume that they would do something like that but you never know. I know a friend of a friend who's 3 year old daughter was being fondled by a six year old. You need to take her to the doctor.

Sorry this is happening to you but if I were you I would further investigate the situation and try talking to her. Demonstrate things with dolls or something to get her to open up. This is not something made up. She had to see it somewhere to know what to do.

Good luck

Answer 4

The more of a big deal you make of this, the worse it's going to be. She's 2 1/2 and if you're sure she's not been exposed to this type of behavior (from the tv, a relative, or even something she saw at home), she's just doing her 2 year thing and exploring her body which is totally normal.

Good luck!

Answer 5

My daughter is now 16 but from 2-3 she was the same way. I told her every time that she was "caught" that she needed to do that in her room. After a few or 20 times she went into her room and eventually stopped.

It is totally normal. Now I have a 2 1/2 yr old boy who just discovered how to make his thing stand up and oh how funny is that to him!

Answer 6

My 2 1/2 year old has started doing this too, not the grinding, but putting her hand in her pants. I tell her not to do it and try to find something else for her to do. I try not to overreact, but I find it hard not to. It is supposed to be normal, but not something I want to encourage.

Answer 7

I just finished reading a book on child abuse and this was one of the signs that a child is being sexually abused, but I have also heard it's normal. I don't know. My kids have never done that, but I have a 3 yr old daughter and if she did it, I would definitely wonder, but she is also in daycare. I certainly don't want to worry you, but you'd also rather be safe than sorry when it comes to your precious baby, right? Maybe you could mention this to your pediatrition and see wht he says. Good luck to you and your baby~ :)

Answer 8

Im pretty sure most kids do this. I tell my kids that its okay to do that but they should go to their room for privacy. Period. They dont feel embarassed or ashamed, dont yell and send her to her room, make sure she knows it isnt shameful. And dont be worried unless you have reason to be, its not a ssexual thing, it just feels good. To her its like rubbing her arm,but with a different feeling.

Answer 9

First off, this IS NOT SEXUAL. Little girls and boys do this when they are sleepy or anxious and the worst thing that you can do is shame them for it.

It's very common-my older daughter does it. I'll tell her, "stop touching your bottom" or give her something to do with her hands or I'll tell her she can do this in her bedroom. I have also told her not to do it at daycare as it is not appropriate for public places but it is okay to do alone.

Again, it is not sexual. Kids doen't know sexuality.

Answer 10

It is so normal for a child to touch them self, they are simply exploring their body...as for the drinding I wouldnt worry about it I mean she couldnt possibly know what that is unless shes being molested or something.

Answer 11

Shes just found herself. Like other posters said its not sexual at all and its extremely common. Distract her from it and give her a new activity to do.