I've been contemplating moving in with my guy.
He's perfect in everyway - I'm 38, never married -
(didn't wanna be) He is 47, never married. Now, I'm starting to settle down and would like to get married. Thinkin he may be the "one".
The trouble is - I've been through three long-term relationships.
They all ended (me leaving) - I made lives with these men, but, when I left - I left EVERYTHING behind wanting to just make it easy - So, three times I gave up my house, apt. - and three times EVERYTHING in them, leaving it all for them.
Reason: I despise drama and fighting, and I go out of my way to avoid it. I'm over my commitment issues (last three ex's proposed)
Having this in mind - if I think this guy is the one - should I start all over again?
My head tells me one thing - my heart, of course, another.
2007-06-05 07:45:27 · 6 answers · asked by tirebiter 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I agree, I think you should wait, don't move in until you are sure you both want to get married to each other!! Tell him that you have been in three failed relationships and nearly got married each time and you don't want this to happen again, you really like him and want to do this the right way, and for all the right reasons!! Good Luck
2007-06-05 07:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by piano19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know you are over your committment issues?
Maybe you should wait until you are married to move in with him. That way you won't be so apt to run.
2007-06-05 07:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Katie C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say follow your heart. if you're strong enough to start over the other times then what's the big deal if it doesn't work out this time either? and you'll miss all the great memories you two might share if you don't. you only live once.
2007-06-05 07:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by xmiss.takex 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships have drama. Relationships are going to cause fights. Unless you just want to smile and agree with everything he wants.
Get counseling...you need it.
2007-06-05 07:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. If you think he is the right guy for you, then go for it. Go with your heart, it wont let ya down :)
2007-06-06 03:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't move it yet. I would wait to see if he really is the right guy.
I probally would move in when were engaged.
2007-06-05 07:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋