Am i wrong?

Question

I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and well i love him so much but sometimes i feel like i want to be with someone else see what else is out there i love to party he likes to only drink he;s cheated, he's an alchoholic, but stopped not completely drinking but doesn't get **** faced anymore. And lately i've been hanging out with my friends and going to parties and dancing with boys and i like it i want the freedom to do what i want to do... but we have been through so much and believe me he's a great guy and im not stupid and tryting to defend him but he's the type of guy that if i left the stove on and i was at the mall he would leave his house and walk to my house that is on the other side of town to go turn it off. He does everything i tell him to do treats me like a princess and more.... Am i wrong ..Oh Im 18 he's 19

Answer 1

Hey there! Well first of all u r very lucky to have such a loving caring boyfriend... It's natural to have those thoughts of wanting that kind of freedom(the parties, dancing with other guys), and u r young... But u need to be aware of the boundaries or u need to realize that there r boundaries; especially if u r in a fully committed relationship! And although it may feel great dancing with other guys and partying, u really need to take a step back before that kind of temptation; and think of how your partner would feel! sure partying is fine but there r boundaries that u should never cross when in a committed relationship. That doesn't mean u don't have freedom because true, passionate love (i believe) is freedom! he's obviously over come a lot, and you've been there for him and he's been there for u. But if u r serious about him and love him, and you know that deep down that u r meant to be together, then u need to make some small sacrifices. Because that's what love is all about! I really admire the fact that u forgave him for his unfaithfulness... it was obviously in the past, I'm guessing? And about him being an alcoholic, it does take time, and and although he hasen't completely stopped drinking, there is hope that he can get through his issues. Look if it's still a big problem than u need to be up front with him about it, because as i said earlier; in relationships both spouses have to make (some small and some big) sacrifices! Think of it this way, you've both been through a lot, and believe me that can only make the relationship stronger... It sounds like he treats you really special and cares and loves u too. So just take a step back and relax, and you'll appreciate the love u share with him and than if it's true love, I promise you'll be more content and happy with your self. Than u will feel truly free and happy with him, and the relationship will only grow stronger. I'm 24 and my partner is 25... So I have had enough experience to know when it's true love and what it takes to make it work. Just be honest with your boyfriend and relax... take things slow! I don't know your background or experience in relationships, but from what u wrote it sounds like u've both been through so much,(and man do I no what that's like) and both deserve to be happy and in love! I hope I helped. All the best :-)

Answer 2

This guy is not great for you. He's 19 (2 years away from legally drinking) and yet he's already an alcoholic. And, no, he did not stop. An alcoholic is always an alcoholic, even if he is sober. And sounds like your boy is not even sober - just not completely drunk. You're very young - it sounds like this is a good time for you to see other people and have fun, while figuring out what is important to you in a long-term relationship (other than willingness to prevent your house from burning down).

Answer 3

You are still very young and looks like you really don't want to be tied down and you just want to go out and have fun.

If you feel this way, I really don't think you should be leading him on like this. Tell him how you feel.

Oh, and he's cheated on you? Girl... you should've dumped his butt when you had the chance. My recent long-term ex cheated on me. I saw pictures of him all over another girl. I was like, "Oh that's it. We have been through so much and I put a lot of effort into our relationship... but if he's gonna freakin' stop talking to me and find someone else, I'm not worth it."

Don't be stepped on. I think you 2 both need to mature to keep this relationship going.

Answer 4

I would be with an alchoholic. Things will only go wrong with someone like that. It's ok to want to be free and if want to then I would because it shows your not ready to commit.

Answer 5

If you feel like you need your freedom and you are going out alot you probably have something missing in your relationship and you are subconsciously looking for something else.

You both are still young so maybe you should'nt be so dependent on him and stay open about dating other people.

Answer 6

if you really wanted to stay with him and were completely in love with him, you wouldn't be thinking of other guys and wat it would be like if u were single..try going on a break with him and tell him ur a bit confused and dont really kno wat u want rite now..if u feel happier by urself partying and having fun, then maybe its best u break up..ur only 18..u dont have to marry him...

Answer 7

i think you should tell him how you feel he might feel the same maybe yall should take a break and see how things feel then.

Answer 8

yes

Answer 9

All I can say is you both deserve each other...lol

Answer 10

~loser~

You've been through so much at 18... ha