can the player ever really fall in love??

Question

if he has a history of being a player, is it possible that he will truly genuinely fall in love with a girl, especially if all the girls he's been with before are very pretty, and she is not so much?

Answer 1

only if he stops referring to himself as a 'Player'

Answer 2

Only after going to quite a bit of thearpy because being a player in part is due to a lack of child hood nurturing. Inadvertantly the player while engaging in what they think is real love is subconciously a need to seek that maternal affection and nurturing they did not recieve while in there child developemental stage and are trying to fill that void in them selves A true player is very lonley and quite empty in side and yet can be quite charming and most manipulitive . . .

In actuality to a player, every women is actually a mother figure not a girlfriend so it's not so much what you look like in fact most player's if they are realy hurting characters and are truly players, will put more of an emphasice on romance not sex. they are prone to fall for the illusion of love, the romantic feeling or the high that com'e with the newness of love, hence they cannot rezist the temptation of going from one to the next when the feeling becomes to overpowering.

btw this affects women as well as men,
there are many women players only to well versed in the sad patteren of behaviour. but one can get help if they first realize the damage there doing not only to themselves but to others who are most unfortunate enough to sucomb to there charm and eventually end up in a relationship that goe's absolutely nowhere and no it's not you . . . good luck.

Answer 3

I am not trying to sound full of myself, but I was a player and got married 12 days ago. She is the single best thing that has ever happened to me, and I don't even THINK about being with anyone else.

She may not be as "attractive" (relative term) as other women I've dated, but she has confidence, which is extremely attractive.

But most of all, for the first time in my life, I 100% believe someone loves me as much as I love her, and you don't ever want to lose that.

She knew I was a player, hell MY friends even warned her of me, but she sees how genuine my feelings are when I look into her eyes and hold her, and I feel the same.

My advice to you is to be confident in yourself, don't allow yourself to be treated any less than you believe you deserve, and be genuine. If he can't see that and doesn't realize what he has in you, HIS loss!

Answer 4

From experience, players cant fall inlove, BUT anythings possible. If he's been with nothing but pretty girls, and now hes with a normal girl with a head on her shoulders, maybe he will fall inlove, because before all he was going after was looks, maybe this girl will trap the player for once. Personallity over Looks!

Answer 5

Players don't truly fall in love until they are old guys and have realized they wasted their life chasing skirts.

He may really like you and wantto have sex with you, but love and be faithful...never ever. The player is always looking for "something better" but never finds it. He's never happy with the one he has.
He will only break your heart hsattering it into a million little pieces of glass. Just be careful and don't fall for his lies. Guys like him know woman believe what they hear, not what they see, even if it's him making out with another girl in front of you.

Answer 6

Actually it is very possible. You can't make it happen and just does. My husband used to be a player, when we met it was very clear he wanted nothing to do with anything that would last more than a night here or there. We hung out a bit then it got more and more...never had sex with him though! I didn't want to be another conquest for him. We just remained really good friends...it was kinda weird. Then things just slowly progressed with us and I don't think either of us have ever been happier in our lives! We dated for almost 8 years and have been married for10.

Answer 7

Yes of course. Some people go through a stage of playing the field. It's just a stage, though sometimes it can last a long time. When the right person turns up they settle down and there is way more to it than looks.

Answer 8

I think anything is possilbe. I married a use to be player. We have been together now for 6 years, and I trust him 100 %. He gets what he wants from home, there is no need for him to get it anywhere else. I also believe that with the player type they get to the point where they have experienced it all and just want to settle down. They have been there done that type thing.

Answer 9

Sounds like he has a good chance....of falling in love with himself. Past behavior is the best predictor of future performance. It sounds like this guy is a tool and you should hold out for someone who isn't likely to break your heart nasty. Barring him finding Jesus, growing up, or having a near-death experience, a player is a player and will get AIDS and die alone.

Answer 10

My ex was a player.....I believed he'd fallen in love with me.....he said he had......and he stopped being a player....for all of three weeks.....shame I didn't find out about it until nearly a year later, by which time we were engaged.
Not only did he break my heart, he humiliated me ....something for which I can never forgive him.
Some men are just shallow and insecure and need to bed a constant stream of women to make them feel like a man, which is sad and very pathetic.
Take my advise and hold out for a real man.........

Answer 11

I believe anyone can fall in love, but it is how a player lives love that tells. A player is usually selfish and ego driven so beware.