Am i Wrong for staying in this relationship?

Question

I been with my boyfrind for a couple of months but our relationship is alwayz on tha rocks well that's how i feel. He's into this whole big religion thing and im really not. and in his religion he can have more than one wife. he already has 2 me and some other girl but everyday im doubting if this is really what i want and i mean my parents don't like him at all because of his age were 8 years apart from each other some days he acts like my father and other hes fine he very controlling and says when i leave to live with him that i cant be with my family so wat do ido?

Answer 1

Well honestly your not in a healthy relationship, so why would you want to sacrifice your happiness for some other guy who can't even show you the attention, Affection and love you want. You think it's bad right now that you don't live together imagine when you move in he's going to have you cleaning, and making babies is it he wont even show you love how can he he'll have other women to him women are just possesions someone to clean cook and take care of the kids you need to leave him before you lose your family and youself. Think about your self always no matter who it is.

Answer 2

If a man is keeping you from the things you love then he probably doesn't want what's best for you and he probably doens't really love you as much as he says. I was in a relationship like that a couple of years ago. The guy was 6 years older than me and he was just as controlling. He always told me how I should dress, what I should eat, how I should speak. It was terrible. When I finally decided to break up with him ( I hadn't before because I was very afraid) he threaten to kill me. & I put a warrant against me that he couldn't come within 20 miles from me. & that solved problems. But I lived with the fear that he would come after me. I suggest you find a way to end this relationship before it gets more serious because then the consequences are even more difficult to deal with. He leaves emotional and psychological scars. Good luck & i hope this helps.

Answer 3

Good grief RUN away from this relationship. If he is controlling now it will only get worse the longer you are in the relationship. If he is very reglious and you are not it doesn't matter what type of religion he practices he will insist that you bend to his rule. If it's only been a couple of months you should be able to get out of this relationship and if you have problems doing this ask your parents for help.
There is nothing wrong with making a mistake once in awhile as long as you learn from it. You deserve much better than this and you should wait for a guy that knows how to treat you right. Good luck.

Answer 4

Honey, I would not walk....I would RUN away from this man!!! First of all, you don't want to be apart of his religion. While I don't agree with his religion AT ALL, it's still very personal to him and probably a very big part of his life and would be a VERY big part of yours if you stayed with him. I have a feeling that's NOT what you want.

second, he just doesn't even sound like a great guy. If I was going to have to change religions, not see my family, and put up with other wives, the LEAST I should be able to expect is an AWESOME prince of a guy. He's not even close.

This guy just isn't for you. You have your own mind, are independent and he's stuck in the past of some weird religion where men rule. RUN NOW!!!

Answer 5

First off i don't know about you but when I am in a relationship I want my man MINE nobody elses. And if he is telling me I can't see my family anymore well thats a big NO too. So if i were you I would end it plus if it is always in the rocks with you two whats there to keep? He still has the other chick...

Answer 6

Yes, bottom line is if you have to ask complete strangers relationship advice you don't know what is going on in your own relationship and that's a bad thing, you have to tell him strait up what you just told all of us, and then, odds are you both should agree that you don't have the same goals anymore and shouldn't be together despite how long you've known each other.

Answer 7

I would suggest to really really reconsider being with him.. You must love him since you are with him while being 1 of 2.. Honestly, if it was me i would not be in that relationship any longer.. leaving my family would not even be an option for me.. not for money, not for love.. unless my family was horrible to me.. So, then in your case.. are you willing to lose your family for someone that will have more than one wife.. meaning you will not be the only one kissing him.. loving him.. having his children.. and then what?? will you be able to work??

It's your decision, no one elses.... but really think of where YOU want your life to be in the future... and if it does not match the way he wants it.. then you know what to do.. no matter how hard it is..

Best of luck!!!

Answer 8

Your Staying With Him For exciting, yet Your 15 You Shouldnt Be Tied Down Like This. Its incorrect simply by fact He would experience Like Your continuously and you Dont experience the comparable. Stringing Him alongside Isnt honest.

Answer 9

I would get out of that relationship! In my opion a guy should only have one wife not two, whatever religion he is in is stupid! Plus if he is saying once you move in with him that you cant see your family then i would get out cause he could become a big control freak and become abusive! GET OUT NOW! There are people out there that would like one wife and not be controlling!

Answer 10

decide if that is what you really want out of life to share a man and to have some one control you interaction with your family. You seem to be a young lady i would let this train go by and catch another. Men are like trains there is always another one coming soon.