i was just wondering, would the understanding just come naturally if you fall in love with someone, or does it have to be built by communication? (i guess you guys could tell that i've never fallen in love before `-=) )
2007-06-05 07:15:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i guess you just know huh?
2007-06-05 07:54:43 · update #1
Look for strong character. A person must be honest and their body language must make you feel comfortable. Do they share your beliefs? How serious are you in your relationship? and kids??? Kids are demand a very serious relationship. Life before serious commitment is very different from life after. A carefree and responsibility free relationship just makes you believe that your infatuation is actually love.
The "understanding" comes as you spend more time debating, talking, enjoy together, and share some serious responsibilities. Check out some books by Deepak Chopra in the public library to basically understand what you are seeking. Also browse through "Lies at the Altar" by Dr. Robin at a bookstore to get some good information. First understand where you stand in your end of the deal. Serious relationships demand selfless love, zero expectations, sacrifice, and a lot of hard work. Really serious relationship means committed just to that one person in your body and heart. It is a serious breach to even think of others or flirt with others.
If you are sure in what you are looking for and where you stand, you will save yourself a lot of heartache and misery in the future. Just do not end up like millions of parents who have gone through divorce, remarriage, child custody.....the endless list of unwanted pain. Be smart and be completely sure about what you want. Stand by your commitment and enjoy a lifelong love affair with your sweet heart no matter how much "understanding" you have with that person.
Take your time. Relationships are not impulsive decisions no matter how many "love at first sight" stories you hear or read.
Good Luck.
A.R.
2007-06-05 09:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by A R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the simple act of falling in love does not make you automatically understand someone...all it does is give you the will and determination to try your best to understand them no matter what. i think most people think of it as coming naturally and this is probably the reason for the increased divorce rates. no one realises that understanding comes from good communication and that it takes work (and many years) to get to the point where you really understand someone well and can communicate efficiently. its never going to be a fairy tale thing, remember that. you always have to work at it. now there are going to be some poeple you understand better than others at first but to build the kind of understanding that makes a marriage work for the rest of your life you have to work at it the whole way.
2007-06-05 14:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is a great way to understand someone! However, if you understand someone completely you know how they will react to something and what they will say. It's much more fun to leave the lines of communication open but enjoy the unexpected! It adds spice to leave some parts of a person un-understood!
2007-06-05 14:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by fade4pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to be built over time. Why do you think most young couples argue so much in the beginning? They are learning to communicate. If you learn to communicate effectively, you can start to understand each other better. Those that don't communicate effectively end up broken up or divorced.
2007-06-05 14:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty tough to understand anyone w/o communication...love doesn't have to be present to understand someone, but if you are romantically involved it's a desirable part of the relationship as a whole.
2007-06-05 14:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understanding takes time and communication. If you want a successful relationship, you've got to understand your partner, and to do this, you've got to have strong communication between each other. This is usually a breaker.
2007-06-05 14:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Niko? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart is a combination of both, as you love someone and as you grow in the relationship. Analize the situation because your husband or boyfriend has to have his share of htat also. God Bless You and may you have a great day
2007-06-05 14:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by Thunder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely both. It takes a small connection to get the communication started, but it is communication that drives it.
2007-06-05 14:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by dramadude17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION is everything. EVERYTHING. Every relationship known to Man is built and maintained on communication. If it is not there, the likelihood of having a successful relationship is unlikely.
2007-06-05 14:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by DeAnna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am currently in a relationship for 5 yrs this comming july...and we are defenitly in love and i can tell you from experience, you will grow and learn together as time passes! you dont automatically connect 100% greatly in the beginning..it takes time, but it will happen if you are right for eachother, dont rush anything,,just let it all fall together by itslef! good luck!
2007-06-05 14:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋