I have been seeing my bf for a lil over a year. He was really distant at first because I have a past. I have always been the girl that likes to go out and have a good time with my friends, but he didn't seem very interested in that girl, so I changed to be what he likes.
Now I am really unhappy with things. I love him, and want it to work, but I am afraid that he doesn't actually love me for who I am but instead who I pretend to be.
He is also really clingy and over-protective. He cheated on my earlier in our relationship, and ever since then he has been that way. I am just not a real affectionate person and I hate feeling like I am being crowded. I also hate the way he acts like father instead of my bf. I am just really confused about the whole mess. I love him, and would love for it to work out. What should I do?
2007-06-05 06:56:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you need to pretend to be anyone other than yourself? If you pretend to be someone else just to please a man, you're going to end up extremely exhausted from keeping up the front and he is never going to truly love you because he doesn't know the true you. Don't hide who you are. If he doesn't like the real you, and doesn't want to be with the real you, he's not the one for you.
2007-06-05 07:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him!! Me and my fella have been having a few problems lately, we went out to portsmouth and spent some time on our own and talked and that really helped. We realised how much we really love each other and how we've let the stresses of daily life get us down. I'd reccommend you having a chat with your partner, tell him how you feel and discuss ways you can come to a compromise. If it aint gonna work and your still unhappy then you need to leave i'm afraid. x
2007-06-05 14:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to pretend to be someone you are not - in the end you will end up not loving yourself. If someone doesn't love you for who you are, and we all have pasts - that person is insecure in his ownself and you can't make people like that happy no matter how hard you try - I wore a 'mask" for years to make my husband happy and when I couldn't do it anymore the result was an ugly divorce but a happy girl in the end for getting to return to myself
2007-06-05 14:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You be yourself and quit being something you're not. If he loves you, it doesn't matter about your past and, if it does matter, he's not worth your love. Again, be yourself, and chances are he will start acting better. What have you go to lose?
2007-06-05 14:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Phoebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-05 14:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by shequita b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋