How can I tell my boss that I don't want to go to her church?

Question

She is a great person and excellent boss, but she insists on asking me to go to her evangelical church.
I am OK been Catholic.
She was Catholic many years ago and now she feels much better after converting, and advices everyone to do the same.
Please help!!!!

Answer 1

Andres, your boss is crossing the line ethically and legally.

To me, it's the same concept as sexual harassment policies. A workplace is supposed to be a place where it is free of uncomfortable situations, and your boss doesn't realize that she's crossed the line here.

It's okay for her to casually state that she would like for you to visit her church sometime, but she cannot make you feel like your job is threatened, and definitely cannot coerce you.

I'd tell her that this topic makes you very uncomfortable. That you appreciate her interest in you, but because she is your boss, you would appreciate it if she stops asking you. Tell her, that you know that the door is always open to attending her church, and if you change your mind, you'll let her know. If she continues, then go to the HR person.

As a person trained in HR and an evangelical Christian, I'm very concerned that a supervisor is crossing the line here. She needs to realize that what she is doing is inappropriate. It's okay for her to ask one time, but after that, she needs to drop the subject.

Answer 2

Her decision to leave the Church was just that - *hers*. She is out of line to encourage you to do the same. She can invite you to attend a service, and you can go or not as you please. If you are a practicing Catholic, though, please keep in mind that such a service does not satisfy your obligation to attend Mass. If you are not interested in converting, then tell her that you appreciate her concern, but your spirituality is a private matter and you prefer to keep it that way.

If she has given you any written materials about religion, make sure you date them and keep them. Also keep a dated record of the conversations you have with her that involve her attempts to get you to convert. In the event that her opinion of your religious preferences affects the way she treats you as an employee, you will need this information to take to your Human Resources personnel. It is absolutely against the rules for her to allow religious opinions to affect your professional circumstances.

Incidentally, the reason a lot of Catholic --> Protestant converts "feel better" after their conversion is that Protestantism rejects some of the more difficult aspects of the Christian faith. It's easier to be Protestant than to be a committed Catholic. Easier might feel better, but that doesn't make it right for everyone. Your boss doesn't get to decide how you worship. That decision must come from you, and she will have to respect it.

Answer 3

I am from an evangelical church, and used to be catholic.
However, I firmly believe in a person's right to worhsip God as they see fit. If I wer eyou I would thank your boss for her offer and say that you feel very connected with your church and that you feel God has you there for a reason.

If she won't stop asking, then tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable and that you still stand with your prior position as explained to her.

Also, exercise patience. Put yourself in the position... She has found something new and very different and is happy to share it. IT's part of the evangelical way I'm not saying it is right, but I notice the same thing from people I know.

Pray for her, that God will show her that your church is just as important to you as hers is to her.

She's your boss, so try to avoid letting this become a conflict. DOn't let it upset you to the point that it affects your work.

ITs a world full of people with varying opinions and views.
We all owe it to each other to accept each other's angles.

I hope this helps you.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Tell her that religion isn't something you are comfortable discussing at work. You are comfortable with your beliefs, and you're glad she has found a church that works for her. But you don't want to compromise your professionalism by bringing religion into the workplace.

(How did she ever get the idea that it was ok to discuss in the first place? You never discuss religion, politics or sex at work. Ever.)

Answer 6

Ask her to stop. If that doesn't work go to your human resources department or to her boss and nicely request that she knock it off.

I'm actually in favor of you giving her church a try. I'm just opposed to using the workplace as your private mission field. One thing you might consider is visiting once or twice just so you can say you did and be done with it.

Answer 7

Just say, "Sorry, I don't want to go to your church. I understand that your intentions may be good, but I would appreciate it if you would respect my right to worship in a manner consistent with my beliefs just as you would probably appreciate it if I did the same if our positions were reversed."

Answer 8

be straight up with her and tell her that going to church is a waste of time and energy;

Then tell her to accomplish this and eliminate religion from her Life (and You can too):

Create a Private, Personal, Direct, Divine Relationship with Our Creator and save Your Soul from religion's and atheist's beliefs and start Your journey back home, to Heaven.

<<<<<<< Love is the answer >>>>>>>

Love and Believe in Our Creator;
Love and Believe in Yourself.

Only with Our Creator's Love and Peace will we be Truly Free!

Without God, there is No Love; Without religion, there are No Wars!

"religion is Spiritual fraud";
"religion is the Worse invention of humanity";
"Universal Truth has eliminated religion from Spirituality",
quotes of Jesus Christ, Buddha and any one else with Spiritual intelligence.

"When a person is freed of religion, they have a better chance to live a normal and wholesome life." S. Freud

Freedom of religion is Freedom from religion.

atheists = all the people in religion = all the ignorant fundamentalists = all the cults/superstitions = paganism = wicca = xians = homosexuals/lesbians.

Answer 9

I would just tell her straight out that you're not comfortable with it, but that you're happy she has found joy in her new calling. You might also want to mention that you'd prefer to keep your personal and professional lives separate, if she pushes the issue.

Answer 10

Tell her 'Thank You, but I'm really not interested in going to a different church'.

She will not do anything in reprisal, for she knows it's illegal to do so.