My mother in law keeps trying to get my daughter to call her mom...!!?

Question

My daughters 7 months old and the only word my mother in law tries to get her to say is mama. She says things like wheres mama, and whos your mama.. its making me soo mad, should I say something, or should I let it go? We see her everyday, so my biggest fear is my daughter calling her mom.

Answer 1

Just because your mother-in-law is encouraging the baby to use a word she just learned (MaMa) doesn't mean she wants the baby to call HER Mama. Who's your mama? She means YOU! You see her every day. Unless she is doing day care for you (in which case you need to find another name: like MomMom that she can use), you are in control of this. No, don't say a thing until you are absolutely sure that she is trying to get the baby to call her Mama. What you CAN do, is talk to your baby and say, "Here's MomMom, or Nana! Can you say "Nana'??? Teach the baby another word for her grandmother.

Answer 2

You need to speak up. Don't tell your husband first either because it will be his first instinct to protect his mother's feelings even if he is not a mama's boy. Tell her next time she does it that you don't want to get your daughter confused. Ask Millie (mother-in-law) what she wants her granddaughter to call her. When she decides on her cute grandma nickname, then tell her to us that name instead of mom when she is talking to the baby. It may sting a little, but Millie will respect for it in the long run.

Answer 3

Your daughter will not start to call her mom. What she is trying to do is to get her first words to be mama. She is being nice not controlling. Take a deep breath, let it out, and let it go!

Answer 4

I wouldn't like that either. I'd nicely tell her she needs to pick a name. Your mother is Gram or whatever and what would she like to be? You're Mama so how about out Grandma, or Mimi? I'd say it's confusing to the baby.

Answer 5

Are you sure the mother-in-law isn't talking about you being the mom? If not, then I would be really mad. But I would also try to let it go.

Answer 6

You and your husband should definately say something . This is certainly not okay for her to be doing this. Unfortunately, it doesn't at all surprise me. So many MIL's are operating under the mentality they they are the most important woman in the family and their DIL's are their peasant subjects who have to bow down to them. I call it the MIL Queen complex. It is a behavior that needs to be eradicated. Stand up for yourself! YOU ARE THE MOMMA! Have the baby start calling her old poopy. Good luck.

Answer 7

I had the same problem a few years ago, my mother in law was our neighbor, and she always wanted to have a little girl, but only had 1 boy. Now that we had a girl, she was doing the same as you mother in law, it cause arguement between me and my hubsand, so i had to talked to her, but she did not listen to me, so it got to the point that my husband ( her son) had to talked to her, he told her to have me live my new mother life with my daughter. after a whlie she did stop, ok once in a while she tends to slip, but its better and also since we moved out a bought a new house... oh my god...what a relief.... bottom line, try to talked to her if it does not work your husband will have to do it.. after all it's his mother!!! Good Luck

Answer 8

Mimi, mumma, very common for grandmothers to expect this. And many families have no problem with it. She knows who Mom is, whats the deal?

Answer 9

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Answer 10

my nephew call my sister (his mother) "mama" and my mother "mom"..but i'm not sure what you mother-in-law real intention of doing that.myb she didn't mean anything.