Im quite young but why do i feel the urge to want a child so much?

Question

Im 15 and im doing work experience at the moment at a primary school, they are such sweet children and i know i would never have a child at this age obviously..but i want a child so much:( I cant believe i have to wait like 10 years! lol why do i want one so much? & its not like i wont a child because i feel the need to like fill an empty hole in my life, im fine but i just love them to bits:(

Answer 1

At least you know it is impractical to have one at the moment. i wanted a baby from very young too altho like you tried to put it out of my mind until the time was right. i now have a beautiful nearly 3 year old daughter and am glad i waited as i now know a lot more than i did then!

it's normal, some of us want kids from early, some dont, as long as you're sensible enuf not to do anything about it yet, just enjoy the kids you do see because you can give them back!

Answer 2

It's a pretty normal feeling to want a child especially if you are around them all the time- but the difference is in this case you work with the children and at the end of the day you get to send them home to their parents... you see a side of the children that is different then the way they may be at home.

I think perhaps if you had a child of your own you may feel differently, yes you would love the child as the baby would be yours, but with a child comes responsibility let me rephrase that A LOT of responsibility.

There may be a place where you can get a computerized baby they are really life like and you have to feed, change, and take care of them like you would a real baby - they are used as teaching tools especially for young girls who want to be mothers at such a young age.

I am however glad that you realise that it is not the right time for you to have a baby. The feeling will pass in time and until then do all the babysitting and caring that you need to for others.

I am sure that when the time comes you will be a great mom :-)

Answer 3

It's only natural, having a baby is very romantic with the unconditional love, having someone need you is a wonderful feeling. Now let's look at the rest of the picture
Child birth feels like you are being ripped in half from the inside out, which can last anywhere from 20 mins to 3 days. Then they need you all the time, so there is no parties, no school functions, no extra curriculars with your friends unless you take your baby with you, and if it starts screaming because it's just tired, then you have to leave.
Then they start to talk, then you have to be very careful how you talk. Babies love the word no especially if they are saying it. They don't like the word no when you are saying it. We won't even get into the financial aspect. Which would be your responsibility, if your parents wanted another baby they would have one. There are two different sides to this coin. How do you feel about babysitting. This is excellent preparation for young people to gain experience, and you still get to have you normal life.
It's like having your cake and eating it too.

Answer 4

Go baby sit or go to school to become a nanny. You have no experience, money or ability to care for yourself or a baby. How many happy knocked up teen moms have you ever heard of??? None. Your life sounds like it is misssing a whole lot more than a baby. Your life is not missing a baby, it is probably missing a good male role model, a good home life and who knows what else. Go talk to a smart adult. DO NOT bring another baby into the welfare system. Go to college and educate yourself so you can be a good mom in the first place when you are old enough. A husband would be good too.

Answer 5

The want you are feeling is believed to be an inborn thing and working around children might be what is triggering your mind to want it so badly. It is perfectly normal for someone your age and it is good that you understand that you should wait until you are in a good situation to have your child. Young could marry a rich man soon or offer to be a surrogate mother to a couple that can afford to take care of you and possibly e willing to hire you on to take care of your child. Just doing some creative thinking for you.

Answer 6

Well, I think it's great that you realise that you can't have a child at your age. So, why not see if there is any one you know with a young child (babe-in-arms) and ask them if you can look after their baby for a night, or less on your own. That way you can really see that it is very hard work and then maybe you won't feel that you want a child quite so much.

Answer 7

It's great that you love children - and I'm so glad that you know you want some one day (and recognize that day is not now).
It's natural to be around kids and want one - but this is where the maturity factor kicks in. Chosing to wait until you are married and can take care of one is a mature thing to do. Doing something you know is not a good decision just because you want to is an immature thing to do. Life's tough lesson of self control.

Good Luck in the future!

Answer 8

It's nature - biology - getting broody - Hang on in there - I felt like this at your age - had real strong desire to have a baby and like you knew it wasn't a good idea at all. These urges to have a baby passed as life got more interesting - with work and boyfriends and going out and enjoying myself etc. etc. I had my first child at age 22 (still quite young some might say) but it really felt right then.

Answer 9

It's probably just the age. Since girls mature so much faster they go through fazes where they start to build their life and plan for the future. When I was 15 I had everything planned...now, I have a beautiful son, step-son, wonderful hubby, and an okay jib, but still working on that one..lol
My advice is to wait until you meet that special person, and your financially ready to start a family.


be a teenager for now,and work on getting things together.

Answer 10

I feel the same way but I am 21. I am still plannin to wait a few more years to get married and then kids. But if it so happened that I was to get pregnant I would be ecstatic. I love children and cannot wiat to have my own. It's natural, there are some of us women who were born with the mothering instinct set on HIGH!