I've got so many issues about this relationship. I'm not going to go into them all, but I can't tell if my anguish over this whole situation is because I really love him and want to be with him, or because I just don't know what to do about it anymore.
My guy's in the military, and he's stationed overseas (he's not in Iraq, just want to clear that up) and we don't get to see each other at all. He had to go away for a month, and I haven't talked to him since he left, but got a few emails from him. He told me before he left that he wanted me to come live with him, and offered to give me the money to move on because we both know I don't have it and it'd take forever for me to get it. Well, I decided that I just can't take his money. And I'm not so sure I want to move over there anyway. Is this a sign that I need to end it? I've even gotten to the point where I'm questioning whether or not I even love him.
2007-06-05 05:43:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's supposed to be back home tomorrow, but I need to make up my mind before then. I can't keep agonizing over this. Any realistic advice would be greatly appreciated, not this romantic lovey dovey stuff. My life is not a romantic comedy where everybody lives happily ever after. Movies aren't realistic.
2007-06-05 05:45:06 · update #1
The biggest issue is the one I just put. We don't get to see each other, and I don't want to accept his money to move.
2007-06-05 05:49:33 · update #2
The problem is, I have no idea when we'll get to see each other.
2007-06-05 05:50:15 · update #3
You already have your answer. You won't take his money and you're questioning whether you love him or not. Don't let the emotions of the reunion push you in the wrong direction. You might even put off seeing him for a week until you can talk to him rationally. If you decide to end it, justify it to yourself first, and to him second. Then force yourself to move forward.
2007-06-05 06:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously questioning whether you love him or not and you have a lot of issues about the relationship, you should probably get rid of him. You shouldn't stay in a relationship you don't feel happy about, that will only hurt you in the long run. Long distance relationships can last though. I had one with my husband, who is also in the military.
2007-06-05 12:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by qt_46350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are just trying to get the easy way out so you dont have to deal with loniless and thats a coward for love... i think you should break it off so he can find a girl that will be by his side through thick and then. Especially right now at this moment while he is risking his life for your freedom. My bro is going to Iraq and his baby momma did the same thing and that tore him up but you know what he found a girl that is willing to stay with him and is much happier. so for girls like you go ahead and let him go so he can find someone a whole lot better then YOU!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-05 12:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because you are always away from him and are not able to communicate you are loosing whatever feelings you had for him. It is possible that when you see him again you will get those feelings back. If not, then the best thing that you can do for yourself and for him is to break it off.
2007-06-05 12:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the problem in your scenario is that you want to be with him and love him, but you don't want to jump into things too quickly.Because, let's face it, he can't expect you to just drop everything and move overseas just to be with him. My advice is to keep in touch with him (I think that if he's willing to move you overseas, he should be ready to propose!)
2007-06-05 12:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by pnogal32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my man is in the army too. i dont get to see him much but i knoe that i love him. if your having doubts then i think you should let him go. but when he left didnt he tell you that things will never change? its not really long distance if you get to see him once in a while. it just really depends on you though.
2007-06-05 12:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by mizznina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we don't know to the extent or even what the problems in your relationship are how can we help you decide to stay or leave?
2007-06-05 12:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋