I was always driven to school and never saw any of my school mates out of school to i was 14. And then i was forced to clubs where i never had any social life. My parents always had an excuss, you'll get muddy, i'm busy now? -worst excuss ever.
My life has been ruined because my parents 'cared' to much i'm so depressed.
I would rather live a few happy weeks of childhood and be raped and killed than having the life i have now.
Why don't parents let children free?
2007-06-05 05:26:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am not sure how old you are now - still 14 or older? I get what you are saying but there are a lot of teens in your same situation. Some parents try to over compensate for their own parents or because the media has been scaring the crap out of us about the troubles of the world. They may shelter you a little but you do see friends all day at school (I guess not in the summer), you have a telephone or computer and clubs are a great way to interact with people. You will be old enough to make your own decisions before you know it. I had a horrible high school life and I always blamed my parents too but as you grow up you realize that your short existence in high school is nothing like the real world. Good luck and find some real friends who are in your same boat. Real friend would understand that your parents are strict. Maybe go talk to a counselor about what you are going through.
Remember, your life is what you make of it and only you have the ability to change things. Try looking at the positive side of the situation and you can even try talking to your parents.
2007-06-05 05:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by FLMomma 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like to think I allow my children to be free. They are 9-6-3-1. We do a lot together as a family. I do prefer them to host events rather than go but I do allow that as well. I just make sure to converse with the other adults involved. If my level of comfort isn't there I either stay and lend a hand or they don't go. Children are very precious and innocent. They are easily taken advantage of.Having been molested on 4 different occasions I am extremely cautious with my girls and son. If you are just involved that helps.The world is a dark place if I can keep a light shining then that's what I'll be doing. As far as being depressed 1 talk to someone it will help, 2 do something to remedy the situation ie go for a cruise by the lake and just hang out. Put yourself in a public place and just talk to people. You'll have a busy schedule in no time.
2007-06-05 05:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey,I don't know you but I was moved by what you asked.I my self grew up up in a family where there was a lot of abuse from my father. I'm the 6th child of nine and to be honest I was pretty much ignored, as a result of everything I've gone through it's made me a better person.I've raised five daughters who are the greatest gift I could ever have asked for.Sometimes parents get so busy they don't realize how much damage they cause. I don't know your entire story but my advise to you is take a deep breath and find your inner strenghth. It sounds like your very depressed,I beleive we're put on this earth to learn from all the mistakes that happen to us along the way and the better person you are the more heartache you'll endure.Let it make you stronger and never take anyone for granted especially yourself.Don't wish for something as horrible as being raped and killed.Why not pull yourself up and shake it off.You should never take for granted the gift of life, we are here to learn.Let it make you stronger and realize that each and every one of us sometimes forget.I'm sure your parents love you be glad they were there for you even though it sounds like they made mistakes.
2007-06-05 06:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sissy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they love you and want to protect you. "I'm busy now" is a sucky answer and at 14 I think it's time for you to sit down with your parents and have a grown up talk about, well, you growing up. Make a list of things you would like to do. Maybe you have a friend that lives a couple blocks away and you would like to walk or ride your bike to his/her house, maybe you would like to go to the movies with your friends. Talk to your parents. Tell them how you are feeling. Altho telling them you'd rather be raped and killed than live like this is not the approach to take. Are you responsible around the house? Do you do what is asked of you without putting up too much of a fight? Be respectful to them and they should start to show you the same respect. Show them you are growing up and they will treat you like you are growing up.
Good luck. Be safe.
2007-06-05 05:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by PK211 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because some parents want their children to be eductated unlike you. I felt a little like you do when I was younger but I thank God they were so caring. I was a bad kid but my parents never gave up on me and one day I grew up (in my mid 20's) and appreciate all the things they did for me. They won't let them be "free" because they are responsible for you whinning "you-know-what" until you're 18. Anything you do they will have to pay the price for. But you go ahead and just run away and give "favors" to older men for crack and money when you have nothing else left in your life.
2007-06-05 05:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe that they trying to protect you,but they are overprotecting.They were not planted parents,they were kids like you.Maybe they overdue.I think that you have to talk to them and solve your problems.If they wont understand you find a person that will support you....
I have a friend of mine that her brother when he was sixteen had an accident with a car.....She never met him...When she was born she was told by her parents that her blood had a serious health problem.Her father was a doctor.As growing up she never was let by them to play with other children or to go out.When she became older(16-17)she wanted to go to stay for a weekend at the house of onefriend.They didnt let her....
She also had some ``fall down``(i mean losing he sensations..)
a night that she had argued with her parents,for not letting her go out,she hear something really unbelievable:
She was adopted and her illness was a LIE created by her parents!!When she asked for explains they told he that thay do not wanted to lose her how they lose her brother!!!
How can a parent do that to his child??????
2007-06-05 06:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are older, you'll understand. I felt the same way. Until I was raped. My husband grew up with a mother that didn't care a father that wasn't there. I didn't know stuff like that exsisted, but he grew up around it. I'm very thankful that my parents were like that.
2007-06-05 05:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One day you will have kids of your own and understand that your parents love you and just want to keep you safe. I also have a son who is an only child. He is 11 years old now. He plays with kids at school and sometimes we invite them to our home, or he goes to theirs. Other than that he is at home in a safe secure environment.
Talk to your parents. But believe me when I tell you they love you and don't want to see you get hurt.
2007-06-05 05:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...
Kidnappings.
Random shootings.
Child molesters.
I must be a horrible parent for wanting to try to protect my children from some really awful things in life.
2007-06-05 10:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by AV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be careful of what you wish for. would you want that to happen to your own kids? let's see how you feel when you have children. yes, I admit parents have lame excuses at times, but from what I see you are crying over a little spilt milk. plus, when something happens to you, who worries? who gets the complaints? who is responsible for you? at least you have parents. you must be an only child.
2007-06-05 05:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by HipHopper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋