I'm going to a wedding (out of state) in August. My friend registered at a few different places, but I would rather give her cash. Is this considered acceptable, or would it be tacky?
2007-06-05 05:22:10 · 13 answers · asked by brevejunkie 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Personally I don't think it's tacky at all! In fact they'll be thrilled and I bet other people will be giving cash too. Just tuck it in the card, not handing it out in public. I was thrilled opening cards after our wedding...cash and checks just kept falling out! That meant we could go buy the stuff on our registry or save it.
And it's a lot better than those d*mned tea towels with ducks and geese on them that I got from like 4 people. Cash is a safe gift, not tacky.
2007-06-05 06:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I always give cash as a wedding gift. Most brides and grooms that I know would prefer cash. There is nothing tacky about giving cash for a wedding. Gifts are great shower presents, and cash would be kind of tacky at a shower.
If you do decide to get a gift rather than cash, make sure you go with the registry unless you know the people extremely well and KNOW that they will like your gift. I remember some of the presents that I got for my wedding 3 1/2 years ago that were not on our registry. A few of my close friends did great in picking out gifts that I would never have thought of and my husband and I really like and use. Most of the people who bought something not on our registry did not do such a good job. I remember looking at some of the gifts and thinking that these people don't know us at all.
2007-06-05 05:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by wendy08010 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I don't think cash is a bad thing. TONS of couples receive cash as gifts. It helps them pay for either their honeymoon, or puts a down payment on a house.. things like that. My best friend got married last summer, and she got over $5000 in cash! She and her husband were very grateful because it allowed them to pay for some debt for the wedding, and they were able to put a down payment onto a house. Plus, they lived together for years before the wedding, so it's not like they really needed anything for a house (appliance wise, things like that). If you really want to, you could always book them a room at a spa or something. That's what I did. My mom and I pitched in together and got them a room plus an additional $100 at a spa just outside of town. The nice thing about it was the package doesn't expire until 2008. So they decided to save it for their 1 year anniversary, which I thought was a great idea! That's always something you could look into.
2007-06-05 05:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Cash is a perfectly acceptable wedding gift. I'm from the Northeast, at weddings cash is always the gift of choose. The gift table is usually empty, but the card box is overflowing.
My rule of thumb:
Registry items are for the engagement parties/bridal showers
Cash is for the wedding.
2007-06-05 05:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you would prefer to give her a gift that shows absolutely no thought, then please go ahead and give her cash.
If you would prefer to select something that you think they would truly like, perhaps you might want to order something online, which can be easily delivered to the address the bride supplied. The gift card idea is slightly less tacky than cash, as you could also mail that ahead of time.
Of course you weren't planning to be tacky enough to bring a gift to the reception, were you? Heavens!
2007-06-05 05:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you would rather give cash, by all means do so. I always give cash for wedding gifts. I use the registry for showers.
2007-06-05 05:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's not tacky at all...the bride and groom spend so much mney for the wedding they can definitely use it, especially for their honeymoon or to even put towards the wedding...maybe give them some money and a nice picture frame you can find for cheap...
2007-06-05 05:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eyes 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What I would do, if I was unsure of what to buy for any reason, is to get them a gift card to one of the places she is registered with. Yeah, it's like cash, but a bit more thoughtful in that she will understand that you happened to think "If I get her this gift card she can use it to buy whatever she wanted on the registry that she did not get".
2007-06-05 05:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Hi, I'm getting married soon, and the only people who have given cash (so far at least) are people who are not able to come to the wedding.
Best be honest, and ask the bride or groom (whichever one you know best). They should appreciate your honesty. They might ask you if you want it go towards something in particular; e.g. the homeymoon, their new house, the wedding...
If you don't ask, you won't know!
2007-06-05 05:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Cash in a card is fine. I give cash (don't ask me for any I don't know you) for gifts.
2007-06-05 06:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋