My son will not sleep in his room?

Question

So last night I put his matress in our room on the floor; And he slept on it all night. So how long should this transition take before I can put the matress back in his room?

Answer 1

Your son can and will sleep in his own room. He just needs your help to learn how. Angelbaby has outlined a good plan. When he gets out of bed, put him back in. But, do not talk to him or engage him in any way. If he cries, let him cry for 10 minutes. Then check in to be sure he does not need your help with anything like getting tangled in blankets or a change of diapers. Still do not engage him in anyway other than to check for things he may need help with.

Going to sleep is a skill your child can and must learn for himself. A nightly routine helps. A child never died from crying, but they can feel you have abandoned them if you simply let them cry alone for extended periods. After a long day, you need and deserve some quiet time without children. Be firm, but kind and your son will learn to get to sleep on his own. And, you both will be happier for it.

Good luck.

Answer 2

The transition should last until tonight - move the mattress back into his own room immediately. Don't do or allow anything more than once that you don't want to continue. If you keep the mattress in your room the "transition" will never happen - we have friends that allowed it and 3 years later they still have a child sleeping with them.

Answer 3

Dr.Phil says it takes 3 days.....Put him in his room on the first night give him his drink and read a book and say goodnight THAT"S IT...he will then ask for you to come back "I have to go pee mom" or "I never got my cuddles today mom" Kids are way smarter then we think, if you give him a little he will take a lot, it's hard but dont cave, only give him one drink and one book and dont budge be strong.

Then he comes in your room- you get up, bring him back to his room you say "this is your room- your a big boy now and you need to sleep in your room" He will then cry and throw a fit...but dont budge he needs to stay in his room, if you budge it only gets worse trust me.

Then continue to do this for the other 2 nights...it will be a rough 3 nights sleep but it will be well worth it in the end lol. But after you make the 3 nights stay strong and dont let him sleep with you no matter the excuse he has, b/c you will have to do the 3 nights again.

Trust me this works great, BUT you have to be a strong mom and dont put up with his stuff

Answer 4

I would suggest that you buy him a very soft stuffed animal. (teddy bear or favorite animal) It might make the transition from moving from your room to his room easier if he has a security item. I like the idea about moving him slowly toward his room. Even after he is sleeping in his room he may try to come back occasionally. Keep a sleeping bag in your room so that if need be he can sleep on that on the floor in your room, and not in your bed.

Answer 5

Put it back today. You must continue to make the effort to have him sleep in his own room. I let my kids come into my room on "Mommy Night." Its one night a week. Now, you can do this everyother night if you want for a while, but do not make it a regular occurance. Don't give in to tantrums, but don't make it a tantrum issue. Talk to him and tell him about "Parent's night" or "Camp-out night" and give it a bit of anticipation. You can also use it as a reward for him sleeping all night in his room. Ask him if he needs something in his room that would make him more comfortable. My mother gave me an angle night light...that she called my guardian angel...and my son likes his night light too. Its a phase.

Answer 6

give him time. If you are a stay at home mom, and what not, at nap time, go into his room with him, and sleep in the bed with him. When he falls asleep, quietly get up and leave, do that everyday for about 3 weeks, and he will want to sleep in there...

Or a mean aint like I am, I say that I have bed bugs, and grimlins under my bed, so he has to use his bed, and that worked, but I wouldnt recommend doing that!! haha

But sooner or later he will know better. They learn by seeing! Sleep in his bed, and then he wil want too! But dont do what others are saying and letting him cry. He wont cry hisself to sleep, he will just hurt hisself. Trust me, I did this with my 2 nephews. And they are 1 and half, and3, and love the bed now.

Answer 7

I would not let him sleep in your room period, wether he is in the floor or not. Put him in his own room, let him know it is bedtime and that he must sleep in his own bed in his own room. Go through any bedtime rituals you may have, as in reading a book, then tuck him in, tell him good night and leave. If he gets up, place him back in his room, remind him again that he must sleep in his own room and his own bed. Just be consistent, it may take a few times, but he will get used to it.

Answer 8

As long as it takes. Don't stress over it - little ones have a need to be near their parents. If you don't want to lose your bed to the "family bed," then this is a good compromise. I would make the transition as gradual as possible, slowly moving his mattress toward the door and toward his own room. Don't worry - he won't be 15 and sleeping in your room!

Answer 9

Put him in his room right away. He will sleep in his own room. You may have a few sleepless nights of him crying and complaining but once he realizes you are not going to give into him, he will start sleeping peacefully in his own room.

Answer 10

I've heard that youcan gradually move his mattress toward his room (move a little each night) and eventually he'll be adjusted to being back in his room. It kinda' depends on how old your son is and how inconvenient it is for him to be in your room (and I suppose the layout of your house). Many parents just put their child back in their room and let them cry out until they just know that they are supposed to sleep in there. Good luck!