Have just started a new relationship and I really like him, except....he chews so loudly it makes my blood boil! It's my most hated noise. Is there any tactful way of addressing this issue? I even had to leave his house the other day because it was so loud...
2007-06-05 04:54:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I can only suggest buying ear plugs as My O/H does this too and I HATE IT. It could be a Man thing.
2007-06-05 04:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tyanna-Daisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there is something you can do! Take him on a trip to the farm and sit and watch the cows grazing. Get close enough to them so you can hear their disgusting sounds. Then make remarks to him about how gross it is to hear cows chewing like that and it's your biggest pet peve. Then start telling him that it reminds you of the time when your Uncle Ricco came over for dinner and damn near made everybody throw up because he was chewing like a cow so loud you could hear it in the other room.
Or if that don't work make dinner time fun and play games like, "Lets see who can chew the quietest!"
Hope that helps!
2007-06-08 16:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by missnasa2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing, from the sound of it, that he is chewing with his mouth open. I have a family member who does this, and truly cannot help it because he has VERY bad sinus and allergy issues and has trouble breathing through his nose while eating. He is careful to try to curb it when in public, though.
If your boyfriend does not have some legitimate reason like the above, then I would just gently tell him something like, "honey, you're forgetting your manners and eating with your mouth open." It might actually be no one has ever told him that it's bad manners to do so.
2007-06-05 05:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty this is probably the biggest turn off ever. I have noticed that my boyfriend does it sometimes too, and it makes me want to hit him. I worked out why he does sometimes, and not others. He has a sinus problem and cant breathe. I cannot suggest a way of raising the subject, because i havent found a way too.
Also the other thing that my man does, is he gets food, all around his mouth (not like a child, Just in the corners) and I dont want to kiss him after that!
2007-06-05 04:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by natasha * 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I "chomp my chops" as people say I eat with my mouth closed and it annoys me that people notice and comment on this.
I have tried to improve but the noise is genarated by saliva and the chewing action eating becomes a slow labourious chore if i eat and keep the noise down.
I'd ask his mom what she thinks!
Asking him direct may touch a nerve - it's really annoying to annoy someone you really like by an action you can't help.
Tread carefully on this one good job you asked us first.
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OH my god you self-centred answerers above me - it's only HIS problem if he chews with his mouth deliberately open and deliberatley smacks his mouth in order to deliberately make eating as loud a noise as possible - otherwise cussing him down for the shape of his mouth is akin to bullying the guy with the bent leg. you're almost all insensitive i hope i provide you with a new perspective.
2007-06-05 05:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ew, I really hate that noise. I have a good friend that does that, too. I just politely ask him to eat with his mouth shut because it bothers me a little bit. Other than that, old habits die hard -- it's more likely that you'll just get over it than he'll change how he's eaten for a long time. Good luck.
2007-06-05 04:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm quite hypocritical really, because i can't STAND the sound of other people chewing loudly, yet i do it myself. i try to eat quieter, but it's impossible for me! it's just the saliva i think. i ended up choking on my food the other day because of trying desperately hard to eat quietly and choking is way more off putting! play loud music when you're eating dinner. haha.
2007-06-05 07:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god you sound just like me !! Ive just started dating someone for three weeks now and oh my god he eats the worst rubbish food and eats loudly then burps or even farts on me and this was our first date its really difficult as he's so hot but i cant stand it and he doesnt bother if he has nt showered the whole weekend !!!
2007-06-05 23:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by sassi squirrel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up as a joke, ask him if his Mom ever taught him to chew quietly and then break the tension with a kiss to let him know you only mean well.
2007-06-05 04:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mike D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first met my hubby 6 years ago he did this....on our first date we went for a meal and he starts eating and is slapping his lips together....omg it drove me mad and I found it very irritating..it took me a few dates but I just had to tell him or I think I would have gone mad.
He may be abit offended at first but its better to get it out in the open otherwise if you stay together its just going to drive you loopy and one day you might just explode with rage lol
2007-06-05 05:09:43 · answer #10 · answered by Hoppity-ES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋