How To Tell Your Parents You Want To Be Boy?

Question

I really want to be a boy and I can't really show it. I don't Know how to tell my parents. I get really embarassed when I do think about telling my parents.PLEASE ANSWER!!!!!!

I am 12 years old and I am not a lesbo. Again please help!!!!

Answer 1

simply tell them because they need to help you.

Answer 2

How old are you? Do you really want to be a boy?
Or do you want to do boy things and be a tomboy?
If you changed to male would you be attracted to males or females?

I would relax and just be yourself for now.

In the future you might want to consider the possibility that you might be gay or transgendered - but that's a whole other can of worms when it comes to telling your parents...

Don't listen to homophobic remarks and understand that transexuality is even harder for people to grasp than homosexuality. At first, I didn't understand why my lesbian friend wanted to be a guy. Isn't being a lesbian enough, I thought. I recently read a book called "The Testosterone Files" by Max Wolf Valerio which helped me understand the mind set of a FTM (female to male) transgendered individual. I highly reccommend it.

(You might want to read the article in my sources.)

Also see:
http://members.tripod.com/~twood/transyouth.html
http://www.transproud.com/index.html
http://www.imatyfa.org/
http://www.youthline.ca/

Answer 3

i can relate to this. not personally, but my little sister, my best friend... wanted to be a boy when she was younger. she looked just like a boy. she dressed like a boy, cut her hair like a boy, she did everything like a boy. she used to get yelled at, at school when she used the girls bathroom, she was that way until about 8th or 9th grade and then suddenly she changed. she is a gorgeous young lady now. anyway, the moral of the story is, it could just be a phase. you might grow out of wanting to be a boy. do your really want to be a boy or do you just prefer boy things like football and comfy clothes? are you more attracted to boys or girls?

being a teenager can be so confusing. it is a time for exploration and experiences.

Answer 4

Walk about with a strap on and call it a day. If that doesn't work, except what you have and be true to yourself. If the parents don't understand that's not their fault. Be a boy for a long as you want!

Answer 5

This isn't a easy issue.

First you need to start bringing up the subject of transgendered individuals.

If you know of people personally, or of people online, then occasionally raise it in conversation.

Get them used to the concepts first.

Make sure they start to understand how important this is to transsexuals. How many will commit suicide because of the feelings they are in the wrong body.

This will set the groundwork for them being more likely to accept it.

If you need to talk more about this, contact me via email.

I wish you luck.

Answer 6

Try telling the parent you feel closest to and more comfortable talking to.

This is kinda hard news for a parent to take in so don't expect hugs and kisses after you tell them. I am not sure what I would do if my child gave me this news. It would be really hard for me to accept, but I would have to respect how my child felt.

Answer 7

You may want to ask this question in the gay/lesbian/transgendered area of yahoo answers as well, where there are more people with real experience dealing with their families on this. also read below.

Also even if you aren't lesbian, the gay/lesbian/transgendered area maybe able to help with this kind of delema, as they have similiar feelings (including transgendered individuals who are not gay as you say) and are a very nice group. Of course there will be aberrant people in any group.

Answer 8

This is something that would be tough to tell the parents. I would suggest broaching the topic and not bringing yourself up at first. Then when you are more comfortable letting them know then go for it. Your parents will love you regardless so remember that.

Answer 9

Consider writing your parents a letter... This must be really hard on you and there are so many options you have... You should not have to go through this alone so if you have great parents I am sure they will support you and help you through this.....

Answer 10

Becca....you have the perfect name for this. What you have to do is, start taking up outdoors stuff, and most importantly...Softball.

You don't have to tell them, they will figure it out in due time. Take up softball, and look for colleges that have good softball programs. They breed and recruit lesbians. You pretty much cant play softball anymore without swinging atleast bothways.

Softball is the key to this, softball and maybe some occasional kayaking.

I hope I have helped, good luck, and God bless!

Answer 11

you may desire to tell them what's going on. Honesty is often the suited concern despite if it may no longer unavoidably be what your mothers and fathers desire to pay attention. as a exchange of feeling such as you could desire to preserve your self against them, why do no longer you clarify to them what you mean via relationship and what relationship capacity to you. Your mothers and fathers could think of it incredibly is a few thing different than what you mean. according to possibility you and your mothers and fathers, at the same time, can arise with basic grounds/regulations so as that each and all and sundry events are in settlement. attitude them via asserting, "i be attentive to you do no longer sense i'm sufficiently previous to date, yet i actually like this guy and sense i would be in charge to flow out with him on dates." and ask under what circumstances this could ensue. in case you make sure's won't approve of you going out - ask what they are going to approve of - maybe they permit you to ask the guy over to do issues (dinner, action picture, etc), or do team dates. despite you do - look for the settlement along with your mothers and fathers. Going at the back of their returned will basically lead them to no longer have confidence you extra and IS extra irresponsible. undergo in ideas - you're attempting to coach how in charge you're - no longer displaying how irresponsible you will be. Be prepared to artwork with them. there will be curfews made, yet once you prepare your mothers and fathers which you will be in charge and stick to their regulations (particular, i be attentive to, quite stick to them), i'm confident that they are going to additionally throw you some bones too and provide help to flow out on dates. on an identical time because it can not be in the present day, over the years i'm confident they are going to come around. The extra accountability you prepare, the extra freedoms you could acquire.