I believe that a bride should never be outshone on her wedding day. The three girls I have as my attendants are all very pretty. They are all brunettes, although two are pale with medium brown hair and one is Italian. I want them to look nice, but I want them to be made much less attractive so that I really stand out. What is a good way of doing this? Should I choose an unflattering dress, or pick a way of doing their hair that is not the cutest, any ideas?
2007-06-05 04:25:55 · 23 answers · asked by papakose777 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Try making them slick their hair straight back, if it's short, have them put in sausage curls like an old lady. Put them in long dresses that are too long and a little too big. Have them wear long sleeves. And a butt bow should just do the trick. Also, have them wear flats and pay for their make up to get done and have them painted up very brightly with watermelon lipstick and blue eyeshadow.
2007-06-05 07:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The bride is ALWAYS the most important no matter what anyone else in the party looks like. U could have the worlds hottest supermodel as a bridesmaid and it WOULDN'T matter! Why would you sabotage your own wedding by purposely making people look bad. What kind of person would do that to their own "friends"? Perhaps the stress of planning a wedding is getting to u because it sounds like your self esteem is taking a hard hit. You need to talk to someone close to u who will understand this situation and not judge u. Don't go through w/ this plan to hurt the bridesmaids, It will make you look like you have bad taste, and an even worse personality for being malicious on purpose. Talk to someone before doing anything.....you don't want people resenting u on your day. You could lose your "friends".....
2007-06-05 04:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think you will at all be outshone on your wedding day, but I wouldn't choose an unflattering dress at all. You don't want them to be miserable as they have to stand beside you on the biggest day of your life, you know?
I would just choose a dress to match your wedding colors, whatever you like or they like. Have them do whatever they want to their hair and have them carry just a few flowers in their hands instead of small bouquets. My maid of honor did that and it really toned her down a lot. Make sure they were modest make up and ask them not to wear a ton of jewelry.
YOU are the bride and going to be what everyone came to see, I wouldn't really worry about it too much... :)
2007-06-05 04:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by CC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but this sounds kind of rude. I mean you are the bride, which means that as the bride, you are going to stand out anyways. I made sure all of bridesmaids were going to be beautiful because they are my friends and I wouldn't treat them like that. Plus, I know that because it's my day and people have come to see my and my fiance, they will be focused on us. Also, if they are your friends, I would hope they don't come with the attitude that we're going to outshine her. Just find them a dress that compliments them because trust me, if they look bad then people will know what you're trying to do. If nothing else, think about pictures do you really want them not looking cute for your wedding pics?????
2007-06-05 04:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by newsgal03 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Are you serious? That is absurd! You want them to look their absolute BEST! They are a part of the look and feel of your wedding. They will be in all your pictures. Are you THAT ugly of a person that you think you need to make someone else look bad in order for you to look good? They will not outshine the bride unless they are wearing a bridal gown that is prettier than yours.
Oh wait, you are the one who is posting those other absurd questions, like breaking a child's heart and calling them ugly.
Either these are fake questions designed to infuriate people, or you are such an ugly person inside and out that you could have your bridesmaids in burlap bags and they would STILL be more beautiful than you!
2007-06-05 04:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
thats just plain mean of you to say these things!!! No one outshines the bride on the wedding day not even the cutest girl.
I personally want my bridesmaids to look the best they can. The wedding photos last forever and I dont want my bridal party looking less than perfect in my photos.
My friend had a wedding to go to not too long ago and she said the bridesmaids couldnt wear lip gloss because she didnt want them to out shine her on her big day. Thats totally ridiculous.
I hope you realize how pathetic and petty you are being. Also god help your bridesmaids - they have to put up with you!
2007-06-05 04:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by *Rhi Rhi* 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to hear you ask this question. You're so insecure about yourself that rather than enjoy your day and shine as radiant as you will be and I'm sure are every day, you'd rather spend your time and energy into making others look bad. Its heartbreaking really. I wish I could be there to give you a hug.
With that said, I suggest you not try to make them ugly or unflaterring. Just keep it simple. Have a simple dress for them:
http://a6.dessy.com/Collections/After6/A6212_celadon.jpg
Some tips on a simple dress: Dont make it floor length, if possible not even tea length, but also not above the knee where they would look sexy. Just below the knee is fine. Also, stay away from details, even the little ribbon that's around the waist of the one I showed you here should be removed.
For their hair, something like this:
http://www.mariva.com/images/sallys-updo.jpg
You dont want them to look ugly because then your pics and everything else will look ugly. Just keep them simple, but more importantly remember that no matter what anyone else looks like you are the special woman on that day and no one is going to take that away from you. You will be the envy of everyone because they will all get to see how much in love you are and how much your husband is in love with you.
Congratulations!!
2007-06-05 05:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is impossible to outshine the bride. No matter how pretty the girl is, everyone is looking at the bride. You'll be so happy that you'll look extra pretty in addition to the fact that you have a gorgeous dress and have just had hair/makeup done. You don't need to do anything to make the other girls look bad and you'll probably regret it when you look at the pictures if you try.
2007-06-05 04:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by rosekm 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm not even sure this is a real question based on the question you asked earlier about not including a 7 year old in your wedding because she was ugly.
You didnt want her ungliness to ruin your wedding day but you want to downplay the loveliness of your bridesmaids by putting them in unflattering dresses? I dont know what your motives are, but I'm sure confused.
I think you need to step back and think about the questions your asking. You may need to rearrange your priorities alittle.
2007-06-05 05:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stand out, is to be confident and have high self-steem. You can put your bm is the world's most ugly dress, but if you have low self steem, that wouldn't make you feel any better.
Find a conservative dress for your BD (no plunging necklines, not too tight) in a neautral pastel color. Do not go for candy apple or coral... that would stand out too much.
Also, if they are tall and you are on the shorter side, make them wear flats or short heels.
You are the bride and you will shine. Look yoruself in the mirror and see how beautiful you really are.
Good luck
2007-06-05 04:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normally, I'd agree with everyone else about bridesmaids not outshining you, the bride...but with an attitude like that, I'd almost hope they do. These are your friends...people you have chosen to stand beside you on the happiest day of your life...and you're going to try to make them look bad? Shame on you.
2007-06-05 08:12:25 · answer #11 · answered by its about time 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋