We dont like each other,but we work together so we have to mantain a cordial relationship, but I really dont like her at all, she is a double faced b i t c h! When ever she has the chance she would stab you in the back. Should I say happy birthday?
2007-06-05 03:33:15 · 29 answers · asked by united we stand 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You need to be the bigger person.
Put on your biggest smile and say 'HAPPY BIRTHDAY' coz it will make her squirm!
It's just plain rude to say nothing.
2007-06-05 04:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no policy stating that you need to acknowledge a co-workers birthday. Some offices may celebrate a co-workers birthday as a group, but you are likely not required to participate. However, I think as a matter of courtesy it wouldn't hurt you in any way to say a flat "Happy Birthday".
As you said, you maintain a cordial relationship at work, and it may look rude to other co-workers if you blatantly ignore her birthday and not wish her well. Other co-workers may start talking.
It's as the saying often goes "You get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar".
You are the bigger person to get past your differences long enough to say a simple Happy Birthday. She may show you the same courtesy in the future!
Good luck!
2007-06-05 10:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by great_expectations 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you dont like her..It would only be nice just to say happy birthday there is alot of people like that she only might be stabbing you in the back to get some friends . But yes you 2 have to work togeather say happy birthday..If you say that it doesnot mean that you have to become her bestfriend or even friend say it..You never know what can happen..
2007-06-05 10:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would- if only to show you are taking the "high road" and not sinking to her low life level. In a working enviornment it's always best to distance yourself from petty behavior and show you can rise above personal differences. You've got the right idea about maintaining a cordial relationship, and a Happy Bday greeting would fall under that umbrella.
2007-06-05 10:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deal with similar people, but I find it's more personally productive to be the better person, especially in front of other people. I wouldn't go out and get her a gift, but I'd wish her a happy birthday...as long as other people were around.
2007-06-05 10:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by dusmul78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure say Happy Birthday but say it in a manner which indicates the opposite. So when you say "Happy Birthday" it comes out, I hope you get hit by a car today. There, you could also say "Oh hello (insert name)" when everyone else is saying happy birthday, indicateing that you dont wish her to have one.
2007-06-05 10:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary to have anything to do with people you don't like unless it's required for work-related reasons. In the office, being a team player is very important, but personally, I wouldn't say anything to her. She'd know if it was out of obligation. I have been in work-related situations where the department was expected to pitch in towards a gift for someone who i did not like, and I was the bigger person for cooperating, but I did not give a personal congratulation like everyone else did
2007-06-05 11:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by indianwest62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is a rule that you have to say it....I would think that if people in the office were getting together to celebrate, and you go and eat some cake and dont say happy birthday...that would be rude, but if you dont go or do anything with or about her birthday, just dont say it.
2007-06-05 10:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Reda T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to if you don't want to but you can show that you are the better person by wishing her a happy birthday.
2007-06-05 10:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to say it, but who knows if you say it and mean it she might have a weak spell and treat you nice for once in her life. Worth a try, you can always go back to the status quo for the 364 other days of the year.
2007-06-05 10:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by Limestoner62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to. You can still work cordially without having to wish her a good day or anything.
2007-06-05 10:40:46 · answer #11 · answered by Faith . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋