We have been in a relationship with a guy for 5 yrs and I just cannot deal with his relationship with his ex wife. She cheated and now has moved in with her life and I believe she has a stable marriage.
It creates a lot of tension between us. She shows up at all his family functions. She goes to all the weddings and funerals and family reunions. She is in all his financial business. In 5 yrs, I have never heard his kids call him because she always does the calling. They dont ever have a phone conversation with their dad because they never call, she does it. These kids are 17 and 18.
I have a 21 yr old and 19 yr old and he tells his ex all of our personal business which infuriates me. He tells her when we buy a car, where we bought it, how much we were going to spend,..... and its none of her business. We stopped telling him anything.
He asked me if I wanted her to do my taxes!!! Its none of her business. He told her how much money I made in a financial deal. Is it me?
2007-06-05 03:21:11 · 8 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that maybe he should have just stayed married to her...and then leave.
2007-06-05 03:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Masha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has moved on and is married, so I don't think she wants him back. However, she was a part of his family, and obviously feels welcome to (and is invited to) the family functions. Although the marriage didn't work, they have remained friends, which is healthier than a lot of divorces! Let him know that you do not share his interest in a friendship with her, and that you would like to keep your family and financial information private. But you can't make him stop communicating with her. She's the mother of his children and they do have a past together and have moved on to a different type of relationship.
2007-06-05 10:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are infuriated with good reason. He needs to move on. Obviously he is not holding on for the good of the kids. And not only should he be past her, personal business is personal business. He can not share you guys' life without consulting you first. He is way out of line. At the same time, of course she is some one important to him. But you need to tell him how you feel and make sure he changes his ways. He is with you now and needs to be more conciderate of how you feel. He is not at all right now. But don't expect him to figure that out on his own. Tell him!!!
2007-06-05 10:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by marisela138 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone comes with baggage, some more than others. If you can't stand the baggage associated with this relationship, move on. Life is really very short. Being miserable is no way in which to live it.
If I woke up in your shoes, I'd develop a sixty day plan to get out. It's too much for this cowboy.
2007-06-05 10:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of men cling to their ex wife and some can't let go of the ex wife. To keep it simple you should do what;s best for you. It seems your focus is him but you shouldn't let it be. Let him see you as a strong woman that can be secure single, and if he still can't let go of his past then he never will
2007-06-05 10:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by ted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are in a relationship with this guy... does that make sense...
Depending on what kind of relationship... maybe its none of your business what he and his ex-wife do... ever think of that?
2007-06-05 10:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Grin Reeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is you ease up will ya
2007-06-05 10:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has moved in with her.......
2007-06-05 10:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋