in some financial ways and I always thought he was generous and the sweetest thing ever. I don't ask for anything purposely b/c I don't want him to think I want him for only help. I pay for some things.. lunches,things for kids. Now after a vicous fight he tells me I am spoiled and I need so much help. what the hell is he talking about? He threw in my face that he helped me that once financially. Now my feelings towards him has changed. I no longer think he is a sweet generous guy. I think hes a creep for bringin it up in that manner. How am I suppose to trust him when I do need something? I don;t want to feel scared to ask my own man for something if I need it.
2007-06-05 03:05:07 · 7 answers · asked by Teresa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like you and your man need to have a sit down chat, and find out what it is that's truely eating away at him? IS it all to do with helping you once financially*?? or is there something more to it that's been bother him lately? You said you had a big fight and he threw that in your face. . obviously he's still thinking about it. You shouldn't feel "scared" to ask your man for something if you need it" but i guess after him throwing that in your face....sounds like it's a touchy subject for him........Communication Trust and Honesty are the keys to a long healthy relationship* Without those you have nothing* Best WIshes*(Sit down and talk to your man and find out what his problem is before it destroys your relationship* and for him to call you SPOILED....i would question him on that too*
2007-06-05 03:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels like he spoils you, gives you all he has, and sees little in return. Like he keeps giving and giving. I'm sure you said some things that were hurtfull to him as well.
Everything in the heat of an argument must be taken with a grain of salt. The smallest thing can be exploited, and used against someone, to get at them. It's not right, but it happens, you both need to take a few minutes to calm down, think about it, and finish
2007-06-05 10:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was having a bad day and unleashed his stress at the one that was nearest, you. Try talking with him to explain how that made you feel and that you don't view him in that way. He may not realize how deeply that comment affected you. I have been through a similar situation and he didn't realize because he does not view money in the same way I do. Good luck, follow your heart!
2007-06-05 10:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was paying for control of your relationship. he was not being nice. if he brought it up like that means he was thinking he deserved something for paying; that is not being nice. you have a choice, to either except his help with the strings attached or stand on your own
2007-06-05 10:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by haggismoffat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he said this out of anger and frustration. talk to him about it when you aren't fighting. it's not good to bring up the past and use it against others, especially when arguing. just talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. if you love eachother you should be able to talk about things.
2007-06-05 10:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by imsoemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is his way of blaming you for the fight you had. I cop that all the time, even though he was wrong.
2007-06-05 10:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him
2007-06-05 10:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋