This guy I've known for about 3 weeks tells me I'm really cute and he loves talking to me. We talk every day for about 2 hours on msn, and he's recently stared text messaging me.
I would say he likes me because his actions and words suggest that, however there is this other girl who lives down the coast that he likes and is just about to get together with.
We've been hanging out heaps lately, pretty much every second day. He kissed me on the cheek when he was leaving a nightclub and said he's sorry we cant be more than friends because of the other girl.
I dont want to be second to any girl. I feel so angry because the girl he's after is a b*tch.
He asked me to hang out tomorrow, and I said yes. I asked him 2 c me this sunday at a club n he said he cant cos he's goin down the coast to see that girl.
He msgs me and n tells me im cute and flirts with me.. he kinda knows im into him and hes NOT after an easy lay with me.
What the hell is he doing?
2007-06-05 02:57:46 · 15 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl he's stringing you along just incase things don't work out with that other girl. she's his priority but she does seem a bit risky for him so he's keeping you around, when things don't work out with HER, he will be all over you. Ignore him. If she is a b*tch he'll soon realise and not having you around as much will make him realise you were the one he should have been with to begin with or he'll move on (i'm a bit doubtful of that though). Be hard with this guy or move on, he sounds like an ***.
2007-06-05 03:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's playing mind games or the field, plain and simple. You sound like a great catch, and I've seen a friend of mine go through the exact same situation. If I were you, I would cut back on all the flirting and hanging out, because he's probably just going to take that as "oh she still really likes me, if things don't work out with this other girl, I can pretend to wanna be hers or around her until ANOTHER girl comes along." He needs to snap back to reality and grow up quite a lot, because it's not nice to be doing that. Try to watch what you say to him when you talk, or what ya'll do when you hangout, because he'll take advantage of you. Just act uninterested and see maybe where that leads you
2007-06-05 10:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by YinxSphinxmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to be like he likes that other girl more, but when he's not with her, he wants to be with you. You're like a back-up girlfriend in case for some reason, his other relationship doesn't work out. I guess you're his "safety net" so to speak. If I were you, I'd move on and find someone who really is into you and only you. You deserve better and the whole sweet talk thing is just to make you weak for him. Don't buy it!
Hope this is the type of answer you were looking for.
Cheers and good luck!
Thistle
2007-06-05 10:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Scottish Thistle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's flirting and keeping his options open with you in case it doesn't work out with her! Most likely, she's not that into him and he's using you to be around in case she dumps him! I say become unavailable to him and he'll either stop calling, etc. or he'll try harder with you! Right now you are making it too easy on him...he can have you both! He's not playing you because he is being honest..but I can bet you that the other girl only thinks you're a "friend" if she knows about you at all!!! I'd forget him...there are plenty of other fish in the sea !!!! You deserve more!!!
2007-06-05 10:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Siren_Cin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's laying down the ground work. NOT easy lay you say? It comes down to you, do you want to make the move and take him for yourself or not. He's attracted thats more then half the battle. Now make him make a choice, or not to talk to you. If this keeps going on, it just means he's cheating on both of you. How much do you value yourself?
2007-06-05 10:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by johnva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you like a fiddle, and you need to turn that sh*t around on him. It's time for you to gain the upper hand on this situation. You're never going to get him, and even if you do, I doubt he's the guy you want.
So here's how you play him back. Bring it to the attention of the girl he's attracted to. Save one of his lovy, dovy text messages, and send it to the other girl of his affections.
He sounds young and immature and needs to learn a lesson about playing with people's emotions like that. That's the best way to teach him, although, you're going to have to get over your unhealthy crush on him, which is often hard to do.
2007-06-05 10:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing games with not only your emotions and feelings, but hers too. It is a power trip. It is time to stop the train and leave him to her, stop being just one stop along the line, who knows how many others there are up and down the coast?????
2007-06-05 10:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Enjoy the friendship , quit judging other people he has been honest, Do not say something you will regret later-and let nature take it's course as he's not married yet!
2007-06-05 10:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by mes210 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wise up! He wants his Kate and Edith, too. He's handing you a line, which you grabbed hook line and sinker. He's just getting the best of both of you.
Tell him you're pregnant, then see what happens.
2007-06-05 10:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you dare play second. This can't be the only guy in your neighborhood. C'mon girl, broaden your horizons, your better than that.
2007-06-05 10:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋