My father passed away in January after a very long bout with altzheimers. He was in a nursing home for almost a year. She came to live with us (me,hubby, and 2 kids). for about 10 months
she has always been a heavy drinker but when my father got sick she started even more. Now she has moved into her own place and starts drinking at about noon.
when i have talked to her about this she tells me that she has no responsibilities, she does not drink and drive and she does not see a problem with it.
She thinks she has nothing to live for. She has never been a big "kid" person so please dont suggest that she spends more time with the kids.
she never calls me, but waits till i call her then gives me guilt that i did not call her sooner.
what can i do? i know she is going to drink herself to death but i dont know what i can do to make her better. Its tearing me apart inside!
2007-06-05 02:56:17 · 4 answers · asked by missingoz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is hard to see a parent degrade. My wife had the exact same thing occur with her mother when her father died. The problem is that you can't control their actions. My suggestion isn't that she go to AA, but that if you are serious about helping her - you should go. It will teach you a lot about the disease. I went with my wife and it was.... eye opening. YOu are not the only one with this problem. If you are serious, put your time where your typing is.... go.
2007-06-05 03:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ranger D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard, but you can't force your Mother to admit she has a problem. The best thing you can do is find an Al-Anon meeting in your area. They will help you to cope with this situation and your mother.
You may also wish to talk to her doctor about this problem, but that could be thought of as privacy infringement. Something to think about though.
2007-06-05 03:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, there is nothing you are going to do or say to change her mind or the way that she feels, they only one that will ever be able to do that is her.
Sounds to me like she is missing your dad so much she really don't like moving on without him. I have heard of couples dying close after one or the other has gone first.
One way to open her eyes a little bit may be to NOT call her until she calls you and when she asks you why you haven't called, explain to her that you love her so much that it is hurting you to see her hurting herself the way that she is.
It may take her a week or two to call, but trust me, she will...........
2007-06-05 03:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call Alcoholics Anonymous and have them direct you to the nearest Ala-non meeting.
2007-06-05 03:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋