but he hasn't told me he loves me...is that normal...we have been together for a year, and get along great...and says I am very lovable...he just doesnt yet, and see's no reason why we wouldn't be together forever, So why doesn't he love me? He has been stressed lately and says things are getting better now, so he will have more time to focus on his heart....ahhh what should i think....I love him so much....
2007-06-05 02:49:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people don't even understand what love is. There's a great book called "How to Be an Adult in a Relationship" - it talks about the five ways that love is shown...
Physical Touch (hugs, kisses, sex)
Acts of Service (does the dishes, visits your sick Mom - etc)
Gifts (cards, little pieces of candy - or even big stuff)
Words of Affirmation ("you look great!" "you're so smart!")
Quality Time (spends time with you - and plans it - or easily goes along with your plan))
If you have all of these things- and he practices them regularly - he LOVES you. Maybe he doesn't say it. But believe me - if he does these things - he is SHOWING you love - and that is much more important than him saying it. Saying those three little words does not take any time or effort. Doing all the things listed above - takes a lot of thought - and caring - and LOVE. If you have all of that - just know in your heart that he loves you. Some men have a hard time saying it. My experience is that I'd much rather have one that SHOWS it.
2007-06-05 03:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are not comfortable admitting feelings such as these. They do not like thinking or talking about it. It could be for many different reasons. He also could be commitment shy, although after a year he should be coming around some what. I wouldn't push him, but I wouldn't wait around forever, sooner or later he is going to have to crap or get off the pot!
2007-06-05 09:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you, he would have said it by now. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, but he obviously doesn't have those feelings for you. You should move on and find someone who can love you. Maybe you'd be better off as friends.
2007-06-05 09:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by naf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does love you Maybe he is scared of the words.. Maybe he thinks once he says them you will leave or something will happen to what youns have, sounds to me like he has some kind of fear that maybe you need to try and talk to him about- Life is too short though for someone to hold feelings in so try and talk to him about your feelings openly and maybe he will feel more at ease.
2007-06-05 09:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by cabbagepatchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is stressed out then it would be hard to tell someone that you care.I know because when I was like that all I did was keep it all inside.Be there for him to talk to.Let him know how much you care for him.If you truly love him then you will waite for him.Good luck.Remember not to be pushy when you are talking with him It might push him away.
2007-06-05 09:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Heather T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship and you really truly love them, and you feel as if they love you back then that should be fine. But it may occur that he just might feel a little uncofortable saying it or may not even notice that he hasnt said it to you. i dont think you should really stress about this. Females always occur to get attached easier than men and happen to say "iloveyou" earlier than the man, idk thats just how i feel hope this helped!
2007-06-05 09:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you. Look, if a guy is in a sexual relationship with a gal and he avoids the "L" word, no amount of time is going to help him say it.
2007-06-05 09:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just need time, maybe hes scared to say it.
2007-06-05 09:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mason S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, guys usually need time and sometimes space in order to realize how they really feel. Give him time and be patient.
2007-06-05 09:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by Paisley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on.
2007-06-05 09:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋