my parents are ridiculously overprotective and i have never done anything to abuse their trust but they still dont give me my freedom. there is a sleepover coming up and my parents are telling me i cant go. im not little kid, nearly 17 and i was just wondering how to fite this thing with minimun problems?? how can u convince to incredible stubborn narrowminded parents??
2007-06-05 02:40:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why fight over a sleepover?
Your parents are protecting you the best they can in this ridiculously violent and unsafe world.
Anything can happen, anytime, anywhere.
One day, when you are a parent, you will know how it would feel like being called ''incredible stubborn narrowminded parents''.......
Try gaining their trust in you even though you have never done anything to abuse their trust before.
Communicate with them often. Ask them in a nice way why you cannot go and even if they yelled at you, stay nice........
2007-06-05 02:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by winterlotus 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Her parents are doing the right thing. If she lives in a scary neighborhood and is as beautiful as you say, she needs to be driven to school. She also needs to realize that she is 13, not 17 or 18. When you are older you will understand. I suppose she dresses in tight clothes and short shirts and skirts? That's her first problem - her parents wouldn't worry so much if she didn't do this. I wasn't allowed to go out with friends alone until I was 15 and then I had an earlier curfew than most of my friends. It was because I was immature and made bad decisions. She may not think gangs are cool, but that doesn't mean she can't get caught up in the middle of a gang fight. It doesn't mean she couldn't start liking a gang boy and get drawn in. All teenagers think they need to be excited and independent. Walking through gangland alone at night being beautiful and getting raped or worse is not exciting or independent. Her parents are keeping her safe. So, she has to wait a year or two. She will get a chance. The best thing your friend can do to get more privileges is earn them. She should do things without being asked or told - like cleaning and doing her homework and the dishes - take on extra chores without being asked. She should show her parents that she can handle some extra responsibility by taking some on herself at home. She should show that she can make good choices by the way she dresses or does her hair or makeup, etc. By not showing off her looks at such a young age.
2016-05-17 07:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky that you have parents who care and love you. Do yuo the stuff that could happen at sleepovers? People spike drinks. You friend may have a brother who is a pervert or rapist or a dad who is a drunkard, pervert etc? If yuo ahve a daughter, would you allow her to go for a sleepover? You can be careful but you might slip for the moment and forget. Listen to your parents as they know best. Wait till you are 18 and theh yuo can move out and be on your own.
2007-06-05 03:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by SG GAL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever ask them if it is YOU they don't trust, or just other kids? I have 5 kids, all girls actually and for the most part I know I can trust em, all kids do stupid things, but at least mine will own up to em and admit it. I worry more about their friends. It seems to me nowadays that parents just DON'T pay much attention to their kids. I worry more about other kids hurting mine with stupid stunts then I worry about my own.
Ask your parents what their concerns are, and then try to make compromises on the things they fear the most. Do NOT hollar and go on, that will just show them immaturity!
Hang in there, only a year to go if they won' t listen!
2007-06-05 03:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just put up with it for now. Rebelling against them will make things worse. Do what they say, don't complain, don't whine, and just try to be as tolerant of them as you can. If you're nearly 17, then you'll be out of there soon, anyway. They probably just want to protect you, just trust 'em.
2007-06-05 02:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by drrivetonight 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you parents have a problem letting go. Tell them that your responsible and you can manage for one night.
If that doesn't work, sorry, but on the bright side: you only have 1 year left with them.
2007-06-05 03:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only a year to go and you graduate from school.
If you want to get out on your own, start working and saving now. (You can open your own bank account at 16.) They don't need to know the reasons.
2007-06-05 02:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well maybe sit down with ur parents and ask them why they won't let u go. then prove to them u r respnsible in some way
2007-06-05 02:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by aries 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't. When you turn 18 you get a job, move out, and take care of yourself.
2007-06-05 02:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lala 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG I have the exact same problem. I'm just gonna suck it up 'til I'm 18.
2007-06-05 02:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋