I'm in the process of moving in with my boyfriend and I'm feeling so irritated recently, and wondering whether or not I made the right decision. Will these feelings subside as I get more settled into his house?? I hope so.
2007-06-05 02:38:08 · 19 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to him
2007-06-05 02:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably normal for you to be feeling this way. This is new for you and him both and you wonder if this will work out. You are making a big step in your relationship. I think in time once you have settled in you will begin to feel more at ease. I had the same feelings when I moved in with my husband and we have been married nearly 10 years. It took time to get adjusted. Talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. Keep the communication open so that these feelings dont stay bottled up. Good luck and God bless.
2007-06-05 02:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're questioning whether it was the right decision to move in together, you should probably wait. Talk to him about your mixed feelings about living together. Maybe try it out for a month and see if your feelings about living together change. It could get better, but chances are that your gut is telling you it just isn't the right timing. Moving in together is a leap of faith. Take the leap, but keep the door open and be sure if it doesn't quite work out that you have somewhere else to go. If you want to keep the relationship intact, then talk to him now about your feelings so there are no misunderstandings.
2007-06-05 02:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any scary changes will cause certain emotions to arise out of nowhere. I think once things are all in order and you are settled in you will calm down and become less irritated! Once you get things settled, make a date, go do something that you enjoy together and things will feel more normal!
Good luck and hang in there! Happy Moving!
2007-06-05 02:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common to have those feelings of doubt when you are making big changes in your life. It is hard to get used to change but you will feel more comfortable with it in time. As far as your boyfriend goes, it is normal that you two may become irritated with eachother. This is a new experience for you both and once you learn eachother's boundaries you should be straight.
2007-06-05 02:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Rachel The Great ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal to feel this way. Its a big step to move in with someone. I've lived with my man for two years now and theres still days when we get sick of each other. Relationships are hard and both parties have to put in work to make it work. If you truely feel like hes not the one then don't proceed with the move in. Try to realize your life without him, does it seem unimaginable. If it does then your doing the right thing. If your okay being without him keep it moving. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you.
2007-06-05 02:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by L Boogie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving in with a bf/gf can be pretty stressful, draining and scary. i doubt what your feelings has anything to do with how you feel for your bf. it probably has more to do with the stress of moving, and you two sorting out where your going to put everything, who has to get rid of what, what you need to buy, who's going to fork out the money for it, etc. trust me, i know! my bf and i have been living together for over two years now. the first time we moved in together, well it wasn't too bad. mainly because we had only been together for 4 months and were still in that lovey dovey phase. but, it was still hard. i had to get rid of stuff, and he had to get rid of stuff so we can fit everything into an apartment. lots of compromising! the 2nd time around, was pretty difficult. especially since we were both wking 50 hrs a week, if not more. i suggest you talk to your man. i'm sure he will sooth your feelings of frustration. also, get lots of rest, and try to do one thing at a time. like i said, moving is soooo stressful, draining and scary!
good luck! :-)
2007-06-05 02:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by loves21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is not home, make believe that you are packing and leaving. PAck and leave the house till you are on the porch. Look back and ask yourself if you really want to do this. If your heart does not stop you, go back in, pack for real, and wait for him to arrive and then tell him that you are leaving.
If you are unable to leave in the mock leaving session, then return, buy a cake and a scented candle and treat your boy friend to a surprise party, but don't tell him why.
2007-06-05 05:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same when I moved in with my partner. It is a big step. Of course you are going to have doubts. I'm sure you will be fine once you have settled in
2007-06-05 02:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling. You subconsciously feel as though you have given up "your space". It is difficult to have your own space since you now have to share it. TRY not to take it out on him. It shouldnt settle down once you are both settled in your new house together.
2007-06-05 02:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 00:07:05 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋